When I first came home from the hospital I thought I was going to master being a mother within a day. My mind kept picturing everything I’ve ever seen in the media and all the wonderful articles I had read about being a mother. Regardless of what you read and as much as your family and friends tell you about being a mother, they have not prepared you for the true test: being alone with your child.
Below are five truths to motherhood people forget to tell you:
1. You never feel good enough.
Everyone is going to tell you what’s the “best” way to do this and how you “should never” do that, but you’ll know what are your baby’s wants and needs with time. Once you figure them out you’ll feel like a pro. And technically you are a master at caring for your child(ren). So, keep up the good work!
2. You must learn how to manage your time.
Few people will tell you this, but if you’re a first-time mom time will feel like it’s slipping away. I keep telling myself there are 24 hours in a day just to make sure I make enough time for everything and everyone, including myself.
3. It’s easier when they’re smaller.
If you’re having issues with a newborn, brace yourself, it only gets harder. My eight-month-old is a joy, but the more independent he becomes the more I need to keep an eye on him. When you have a newborn you carry them everywhere and they fall asleep in anyone’s arms. Whenever we have get-togethers it’s easy to hand him off when he’s active, but once he’s tired, it’s mommy to the rescue.
4. Forget sleeping in.
No, seriously! Forget what it feels like to sleep in on the weekends because your number one priority is taking care of your children from “son up to son down” – daughters too! Make sure you eat nutritious meals — you will need the energy.
5. You will always love your child(ren) no matter what.
As frustrated and sleep-deprived as you may be, you will always love your child(ren). They have this unique way of making you smile, even when you are correcting them. Do your best not to smile while you’re explaining to them that jumping on top of the dog or pulling the poor pup’s fur isn’t how you treat a member of the family.