7 Times I Almost Quit






Don’t believe everything you see in the media, that includes social media as well.

Starting from scratch means you need to work your way to the top. That requires a lot of research. I say this now because there are things I didn’t know that I know today, and have helped me with my current success.

Please note, success can be defined in many ways. Right now, I feel as though I’ve reached a certain point with my blog where I feel okay sharing my strategy because it’s based on in-depth research and trial and error, and I freely share it with others because it’s already available to them if they dig deeper, ask questions.

Finding The Right Resources
I started my blog in 2013 at a time when I was still working full time and had been blogging for more than five years. My first blog was when I was 15 and I always loved beautifying MySpace pages at the time. I even had a community Facebook page for the town I grew up in that generated more than 4K genuine followers (meaning, none came from third-party websites or sponsored giveaways). Doing allowed me to help my brother with his business and landed me an internship at a local hospital.

Although I had experience, I didn’t have the right kind.

Sure, hopping on LiveJournal, Xanga or even Blogspot was a great way to develop my writing, but it wasn’t the same when I arrived at the digital B2B publishing company. I started out as an eager-to-learn intern and blossomed into an assistant editor and social media strategist. It was fun, but I had a lot to learn.

Organization Is King
Armed with the right team, I discovered there’s so much that goes behind running a website, working with advertisers, creating content, etc. Much of what I do today is similar to what I learned from my time at the B2B publishing company.

I read white papers after white papers, eBooks and even cheat sheets from HubSpot. Nothing that I read made sense until I put everything into practice. A former colleague joked once that the job of a social media manager is 24/7. I laughed until I realized I was slowly allowing it to consume my life and gave truth to her words.

During my time at the digital B2B publishing company, I heard a lot about content marketing and how content is king. One thing marketers failed to address was how important organizing your content and how you’re going to present it, is just as important.

Entering the field right after college was a good slap in the face on how you really need to learn how to focus. I mentioned this to my supervisor at the time and he agreed: “College is a lot easier than the real world. You go to a class and focus on that one. At work, or even in real life, you’re being pulled in different directions.”

It feels overwhelming when you’re not organized. I had to learn that the hard way, and oftentimes would beat myself up when I didn’t meet deadlines or come prepared for presentations.

I was still learning the ropes at the time, but looking back, I value the mistakes I made because they’ve made me stronger.



Change Is (Sometimes) Good
I’d be lying if I told you coming up with a mom blog was my idea. Actually, it was a former colleague’s suggestion. I jokingly said no, but little did I know it was going to change my future.

As for being a freelance social media strategist, that too came from another colleague at the B2B digital publishing company.

When I finally started my mom blog, Motherhood Through My Eyes, I was on a free hosting website. Three of my colleagues at the time had made the suggestion to pay for a self-hosted website. The cost was high for me, a first-time mom who knew nothing about creating a website.

But I researched how, and it helped me in the end.

I’ve been working on my blog ever since, landing clients from companies big and small, and helping other bloggers do the same. Today, I don’t regret starting my blog or even working as a freelancer. I will admit that there were several times I almost quit. Below, I shared a handful of times I didn’t see a future for my blog and how I’ve been able to combat those feelings:

1. When I got a negative comment from someone who personally knows me.
Within the first month of blogging, I received a comment on my Instagram from a friend’s cousin who mentioned how I had just become a parent and was offering tips as though I was an expert.

It annoyed me then, and I almost wanted to give up because I didn’t need that type of negativity in my life. I did something better. I cut them from my life and social media sites.

2. When I thought I’d never get accepted to work with companies.
Although I started Motherhood Through My Eyes to help other first-time and new moms, it blossomed into something more. Within a month or so of starting my blog, I landed a campaign with a well-known baby brand for $45. It was the motivation I needed to keep going. To share my thoughts on what it was like to be young and find yourself pregnant.

I told my story, and I continue to share my everyday life and the lessons I encounter. It’s helped others in my position, and for that I’m thankful. There’s more to motherhood than just changing diapers, and there’s no need to compete if our stories are unique.

3. When I didn’t understand how to market my blog. 
I shared my blog several times throughout social media, and I heard about building your tribe many times over the years. A friend introduced me to her tribe and it was the best thing ever, and I’m forever grateful to our friendship because it’s opened so many doors for me.

4. When I got backlash from my mom.
A year after starting my blog, I hit one of my milestones: I worked with a car brand that holds a special place in my heart. When I mentioned it to my mom, she asked how much they were paying me. She said that was too little for someone who went to college and earned their degree in the field.

Yes, she was semi-right, but there are more factors to working with brands than a degree. I was a smaller blogger at the time and I didn’t have the right tools at the time. Since then, I’ve raised my rates and won’t take free collaborations with brands.

5. When I was only being pitched free products for reviews.
As a blogger, your email is your lifeline. Most companies/PR representatives will pitch you directly to your email. It can get stressful when you’re only being sent free products to review. It’s nice to see something that I could actually use, like a foldable bathtub I received a few months back, but otherwise, I don’t entertain the idea anymore.

Also, another great way to make use of these free-product pitches is to put together an ultimate giveaway/multiple giveaways for your readers. This helps companies understand how you work and how well your audience responds to their product(s).

6. When I didn’t really have the time to blog.
Once I started getting pitches from companies, I began to write on a daily basis. Monday through Friday, and sometimes weekends. It made me feel down when I didn’t have time to work on a piece. This was when I was taking in free products to review. It really hurt me in the end because I didn’t consider the loss it would show on my taxes. Fun, right?

After that, I’ve become more selective of how I invest my time. It’s been one o my goals from this day forward, to work smarter, not harder. Time is everything when you’re raising a family, and I don’t want my business to ever interfere with life as it did back then.

7. When I didn’t have a good strategy. 
No matter how many times I researched things, and how others have been able to find success, there was one thing I didn’t think to do. That was to stick to something that will work for me, my lifestyle, not someone else’s.

There’s no cookie-cutter path for you to follow. It’s more like a toddler learning their shapes and trying to bake cookies at the same time. There will be imperfections, and that’s okay. You’re still learning. 

They say seven is a lucky number, and thankfully, I now know that quitting isn’t something that will benefit me in the end. In fact, each time I thought about giving up, there was a reason why I needed to try harder. And that’s exactly what I did. I hope you do the same in whatever it is you’re pouring your heart on.

Remember, you define your own success.

53 Comments

  1. Paige Rodriguez

    March 27, 2017 at 10:49 AM

    Fatima, your advice and down-to-earth demeanor is always so refreshing, mama. You inspire me and I’ll always remember you for taking the time to help me a little while back, I’ll never forget that. I’m hoping to be where you are in terms of your blogging journey one day!

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 27, 2017 at 10:52 AM

      That was really sweet. Thank you for sharing. It hasn’t been the easiest, but it’s allowed me the freedom to focus on family and friends. I connect more with others these days than I’ve ever done so before. I cannot wait to continue to see you grow. It’s a process, and it takes time and money. Invest wisely!

  2. Fashionaire She by J (@ModelJShanTrice)

    March 28, 2017 at 2:14 AM

    I needed to read this today! I am 20 year old college student, with a full time job and a university college student. Often I want to quit but it is just not in my DNA,

  3. robin masshole mommy

    March 28, 2017 at 6:52 AM

    Yes! Organization is key! I am pretty organized in general, but I have my bad days where I lose everything and just need to walk away and get my head back on straight.

  4. Ana John

    March 28, 2017 at 7:22 AM

    I am so inspired by this. There have been time when i quit due to negative feedback, lack or organization and improper time management. Loved reading this piece.

  5. Amber

    March 28, 2017 at 8:28 AM

    Yup, there’s been times when I’ve been frustrated as well. Blogging can be tough! But like you, I keep going because the good outweighs the bad.

  6. mymelanatedbeautiful

    March 28, 2017 at 9:28 AM

    I think I am in the midst of a similar journey as yours…and still trying figure my way around this blogging thing. Especially finding the time tom loft, I have a five month old and as much as I love and want to write, I struggle to find the time. It’s encouraging to know someone else has been through it! Thanks for your insight 🙂

    1. mymelanatedbeautiful

      March 28, 2017 at 9:30 AM

      *Finding the time to blog, typo lol

  7. momknowsbest15

    March 28, 2017 at 2:15 PM

    There are many days that I feel like quitting. Then I see my email list grow and I feel like staying in the game.

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 28, 2017 at 9:24 PM

      There you go! Yes, email lists are key to generating traffic and get more eyes on your affiliate links/sponsored posts. 🙂

  8. Karina

    March 28, 2017 at 2:34 PM

    7 IS a lucky number! I got married to my love on 070707 because we believe that. I’m glad you didn’t quit when you wanted to. If you did, we wouldn’t have gotten all this amazing advice. I’m just starting out as a blogger and honestly, I didn’t know about all the time and planning that went into it. I’m a mom of 3 who homeschools so time isn’t something I have a lot of, but you know what? After reading about your experience, I’m gonna find a strategy that works for ME… and not try to do unrealistic things that could lead to me burning myself out. Thank you for sharing all of your insightful wisdom.

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 28, 2017 at 9:22 PM

      Aw, that’s awesome. And yes, it’s all about finding what works for you. If you have to wake up a little earlier, DO IT! If you have to go to bed a bit later, DO IT! It all pays off. Plus, who knows what doors blogging opens up for you! I know a mom of three who homeschools ( mommyweek.com ) She is an inspiration to those around her. Feel free to check her out.

  9. melissathemermaid

    March 28, 2017 at 2:36 PM

    This is such a great read. It’s heart-warming to know what you have gone through that made you a writer. Keep it up!

  10. lavonnia1978

    March 28, 2017 at 2:44 PM

    I’ve wanted to quit a lot of things too. I just found a better outlook on it and kept going.

  11. nlampert

    March 28, 2017 at 3:39 PM

    I can relate to this post a lot… I’ve definitely had some similar experiences on my blogging journey and it can be really discouraging. Thanks for the encouragement to stick with it!

  12. Trisha Lyn Fawver

    March 28, 2017 at 5:50 PM

    Regarding being pitched free review stuff, it’s a struggle. Advertisers sometimes are just told to “work with bloggers” and their teams aren’t being given the proper tools to really argue for a blogger who’s worth being paid (i.e. who has the traffic, social reach, influence, etc) so they have to try at the bottom with just offering an item for review. There’s nothing wrong with making a counter offer of a paid option if you can show them the stats to back it up!

  13. Valerie CottageMakingMommy

    March 28, 2017 at 8:54 PM

    I love how fresh and giving you are. You are always honest and that is a rarity in today’s world.

  14. Quirky Engineer

    March 28, 2017 at 10:06 PM

    I needed this today. Its so nice of you to be this honest about everything. This does inspire me to keep soldiering on instead of worrying that it isn’t working. Thanks for this!

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 29, 2017 at 11:33 AM

      It’s all about strategy. That’s what has kept me going lately, and hopefully for a little longer.

  15. Tasheena @ SimplyTasheena.com

    March 28, 2017 at 10:23 PM

    I can’t believe someone could be so incentive since you were a new mom (first comment) I know new Moms who are pros.

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 29, 2017 at 11:32 AM

      You’d be surprised how many people will take your words and twist them. Honestly, my blog name says it all… “Motherhood Through My Eyes” — it’s based on my experience. I’m no expert, but I will gladly share my thoughts on something with those willing to read/hear them.

  16. Blair Villanueva

    March 29, 2017 at 12:32 AM

    I love to know that you are never a quitter. YOU ARE QUEEN!

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 29, 2017 at 11:30 AM

      Aw, thank you! It hasn’t been easy… and I’ve had to cut back on some things lately, but everything I’ve done has led me to this point in my life. And for that, I’m forever thankful.

  17. toastycritic

    March 29, 2017 at 1:08 AM

    That’s great that you were able to move yourself past those moments where you want to quit. Even the few months I have been blogging has taught me a lot about that.

  18. Azlin Bloor

    March 29, 2017 at 5:51 AM

    Oh boy, those were quite a few negative feedbacks you got. People just don’t get it, only bloggers understand other bloggers. Glad you kept going!

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 29, 2017 at 11:29 AM

      Yes! I feel as though I connect best with other bloggers than some of the people in my family.

  19. Lorena (@EnjoyatLondon)

    March 29, 2017 at 6:11 AM

    Such a beautiful post, I am new on this and I have sometimes felt to quit too, but we need to be focus, and not bother with what the others thinks. All the best

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 29, 2017 at 11:28 AM

      We all start somewhere, and we can always help each other along the way. I will recommend reading and researching often. It’s what has helped me. Also, ask questions. You never know who might have the answer you needed to hear.

  20. Elizabeth O.

    March 29, 2017 at 9:14 AM

    There will be many things in life that will push us to quit, the important part is that we don’t. It’s easy to drop everything but what’s going to haunt you is the thought that you weren’t strong enough to continue and that you just gave in. I think it’s really important that we find different ways to motivate ourselves whenever life pushes us down.

  21. Hannah Marie

    March 29, 2017 at 2:03 PM

    This is so inspiring! Working smart is really the key. Sometimes we are working hard but in the wrong path so we do not really see the fruits of our hard work.

  22. eazynazy

    March 29, 2017 at 2:54 PM

    I am really very inspired by this post…i guess i really needed this…Thanks for sharing this

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 29, 2017 at 10:14 PM

      You’re welcome. Happy to help.

  23. Wildish Jess

    March 29, 2017 at 4:44 PM

    I started working in internet marketing and decided to convert my blog over to a real blog versus diary. Its funny how things changed.

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 29, 2017 at 10:14 PM

      Isn’t it? I think it tends to happen for the better. 🙂

  24. gaborvantolna

    March 30, 2017 at 12:46 PM

    I hope there wont be a 8th time… keep it up and GOGOGO! You have a good way of writing, would be a shame if it would get lost…

  25. Jays SweetNSour Life (@SweetNSourDeals)

    March 30, 2017 at 12:58 PM

    I have been battling this so much today! Some days I love what I do and then other days I feel like a huge mess. Just gotta take each day one at a time.

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 30, 2017 at 1:00 PM

      It takes a lot of patience, and pep talks with those who love and care about you. Remember why you started, and where you were when you did. That alone should drive you to push through.

  26. Michelle Waller

    March 30, 2017 at 1:02 PM

    I have been struggling for awhile with this. I recently wrote down a list of things I want to do, and some that I don’t and got rid of all the things I don’t want to do and starting to become more productive.

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 30, 2017 at 1:12 PM

      That’s a great start! You always want to focus on the things that make you happy. Everything takes time. You’ll get there!

  27. cherylchey

    March 30, 2017 at 2:43 PM

    I am not a mom, but live with my nephews and see how much work and love goes into just a day!

  28. Bernadette Callahan (Aimless Moments)

    March 30, 2017 at 4:36 PM

    I started my blog a few years before I actually started it, if that makes sense lol. I started it with like 3 or 4 posts and then just got busy with other things and left it alone till a couple of years ago. I try to be consistent with posting so I dont lose motivation but some days are easier to be inspired than others.

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 30, 2017 at 4:41 PM

      I know the feeling, but you’re right, consistency is key. Think about your readers and how they’re waiting to read your latest post. If they know when to expect a new piece, then they’ll be more likely to stay loyal 🙂

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    March 31, 2017 at 2:46 AM

    Love the honesty in your post.Yes blogging has no cookie cutter formula.Quicker one learns bettere it is

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      March 31, 2017 at 12:46 PM

      Exactly, and it takes a lot of research to find what works for you.

  31. Kay

    March 31, 2017 at 8:53 AM

    Love the fact that you are always so honest about your life. My job just ended and surprisingly it was a blessing in disguise.

    1. Fatima Torres

      March 31, 2017 at 12:45 PM

      Thank you, and I’m glad you see the positive in this little hiccup. Good things will come your way.

  32. Kathy

    April 1, 2017 at 11:32 PM

    I’ve gone through some similar ones too. I have felt like quitting often, but I enjoy working from home. I love being able to be around my kids more, which is a huge reason why I continue blogging.

  33. Savannah (@HowHesRaised)

    April 2, 2017 at 5:40 PM

    This is so REAL!! Your honesty is so refreshing especially because we, as bloggers, have totally been there! I have reached quite a few of those bumps myself, but it always feels so good to look back and know you stuck with it. Thanks for sharing! <3

    1. Fatima Torres

      April 3, 2017 at 9:19 AM

      You’re welcome, and thanks for admitting you’ve been there before. Some people will never discuss the issues they’ve encountered. I think it’s important to be transparent because people are always trying to make their lives seem perfect. Life is messy… embrace it!

  34. Ana Ojha

    April 3, 2017 at 3:50 PM

    I can relate to every point that you have mentioned! The most disappointing part of Blogging is to receive negative comments from friends and family. I try to take it as a positive feedback but it is better to remove negative people from our lives who are creating hindrance on our path!

    1. Fatima Torres

      April 5, 2017 at 11:06 PM

      You’ve got it! Always keep going. 🙂

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