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My Husband Needed A Daughter

I’d be lying if I said it didn’t cross my mind that my husband needed a girl, but I didn’t know just how much it would mean to him.

My husband has always been surrounded by girls — his nieces and women in general — but it wasn’t until I found out we were expecting our firstborn that it came to mind.

Before Our Girl
We planned our second pregnancy because we wanted our firstborn to have a sibling who he could form a bond. Having our two boys was a blessing for us, and we thought we were complete.

Never once did we think, “let’s try for a girl” because trying for a baby was enough. You hear stories of women who have issues carrying a child and we never wanted to be the type to want something that was out of our hands.

Shortly after purchasing our home my husband and I found out we were expecting. Finding out we were going to be parents of a third child was terrifying. I expressed myself in a previous post, feel free to read it here.

To feel your body go through the same things it had been through before can be exciting. After all, you know what to expect. I knew I was pregnant before the test results and I knew I’d carry a girl. I remember telling my husband how if I were pregnant for the third time, then we’d end up with a girl. Neither one of us were looking to find out if that was true, but there were other plans for us.

After Our Girl
Heading to the hospital three times only to be sent home each visit was heartbreaking. After the fourth, we were sent home with our baby girl in our arms. Exciting as it may sound, I can’t express the excitement I saw in my husband’s face the first time he looked at her. He fell in love and I couldn’t imagine life without that excitement on his face.

Here’s a recent post I shared about it:

Today, she fits right in with the boys — except she loves her space. At times, she reminds me of myself (I grew up with boys as well). I can’t wait to watch her grow up with her boys. Oh, and yes she wears hand-me-downs from the boys here and there.

Former B2B editor and marketer turned Family & Lifestyle blogger. Fatima is passionate about life and being social. When she isn't running around with her husband, three kids, and two pups, Fatima helps other bloggers and local businesses with their online marketing strategy. If you have any questions or would like to connect, feel free to reach out via email: tima@motherhoodthroughmyeyes.com

22 Comments

  • Tasheena Nicole Johnson

    She is so precious! I think every man needs to have a daughter. I feel that it really keeps them balanced and humbled.

  • Shelley R King

    Awww she is beautiful! Every man does need a girl! I am a total Daddy’s girl! Do not know what I would do without him!

  • Debra Hawkins

    I love watching my husband be a dad to my two girls. Sometimes I am sad he doesn’t have a boy but he is such a good girl dad!

  • C-Ludik

    Ha, ha I just read an article last weekend about a research that reveals daughters (not sons) actually make men better. Daughters make them more generous, more likely to think of others first, and generally more sharing. It’s not really that surprising… I guess that every parent should have the opportunity to parent the opposite sex. It does open up a whole other world 🙂

  • Melanie

    My husband and my daughter are great friends! It is wonderful to watch them together. On the flip side, being a mom to boys is pretty cool, too.

  • nadaliebardo

    Awww, how precious! Congrats on your baby girl, she is simply delightful. You have such a beautiful family! Now wishing someone close to me would have a baby already.

  • Joy

    Awww major congratulations to you on your little bundle of joy. She is so adorable! Thank you for sharing your story. I enjoyed reading your post!

  • biancadottin

    She is so adorable! I completely agree with all of this. Our first child was a girl and my husband was ecstatic.

  • Lissette

    When I was pregnant with Madison, I thought she would be a boy. I didn’t ever think I would get my girl. My husband had a son from a previous marriage and then we had Sebastian together, so in my mind I was thinking that all he made were boys. When I found out I was having a girl, I was truly surprised! So much so that I squealed into the phone when I was told and made the nurse laugh. It was truly an unconscious reaction.

    My husband was a bit ambivalent about the whole girl thing. His reasoning is that he will be in his late 50’s when she’s a teenager. He’s afraid he’ll be too old to be dealing with all that teenaged girl drama, but every time she squeals “daddy!”, he melts into a puddle. He needed a girl too, and not because he was surrounded by girls, because he’s an only child, but because he needed that magical father-daughter bond that is so different from a bond with a son.

    • Fatima Torres

      That’s beautiful. I cried when I found out. Happy and confused tears because I wouldn’t know what to do when raising a girl. 🙂

      I’m sure your husband is so over the idea of not wanting to deal with the drama.

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