If you ever run into me with our three kids, please do me a favor and don’t congratulate me for having a girl. We weren’t “looking” for our daughter nor have we been “trying” for a girl since having our firstborn.
I understand there’s this idea embedded into some minds that everyone wants the “parejita” — the pair. I will be the first to let anyone know that we weren’t thinking of this. In fact, if you’ve been reading my blog for the past five years you’ll notice we only planned for our second child. Our first and third children were unexpected.
Compliment Our Kids
It’s not every day that I walk into a grocery store. On most of my trips to the store I’m trying to walk in, get what I need and get out. I know I look like a teenager with three kids — some have even asked if my kids were my siblings. The truth is, they’re all my kids, and when you mention how exciting it must be to have a girl, you’re bringing my boys down. It might not be intentional, but there are two other children standing next to me that have eyes and ears. Please don’t treat them as though they are invisible.
Another reason why this impacts my children is how you’re giving my daughter unnecessary attention. Yes, she’s girl, but because she’s a girl, you don’t need to state the obvious. She’s the only girl of the three, but it doesn’t mean she deserves more attention than the others. She’s equally loved in our home, and we’d like to keep it that way elsewhere.
Growing up, I was the only girl out of three. I was treated differently and there were so many expectations placed upon me. It’s probably why I beat myself up whenever I fail at something. One thing I never want to do to my kids is single any of them out. I try to be fair to all three. If one has to clean up, so do the others. Unless only one of them made the mess, then that’s fair game.
Do you or someone you know get approached by others because you have a girl in your home of boys? Tell me about it below!