How Togetherness Can Heal Your Soul

I’ve shared several times on my blog on how changing my mindset has helped me overcome the pain I experienced in my life.
You’re probably thinking what did I experience in the past to make me the person I am today. Enough. I’ve experienced enough. 
And sometimes, just knowing that you’ve been able to get through certain things in life is enough to show you that you can pretty much get through anything. 
Experience The Love 
My parents have always loved me, but growing up I always searched for it in other people. It wasn’t until I was in my last “teen” years that I realized there was more to life than finding love. Actually, I just reignited the fire with myself. 
If you ever get a chance to step outside on a beautiful day, and just go for a walk, you learn to appreciate the love you have found in nature. 
At 19, I became obsessed with long walks in the park. I took my friends with me on long walks just to see if they would appreciate it as much as I did. 
Some did, others just thought I was some type of hippie. 
I used to love going on walks with my dad. We’d go for lunch after. I loved taking him with me because he also enjoys nature walks. 
Regardless of who would tag along, I learned to just enjoy the time I spent with them. Talk about life, get to know what they were thinking. 
Parks are a great place to just forget about everything for a while. 
Becoming A Hug Monster
I don’t know anyone who doesn’t appreciate a big, tight hug. It says so much about the other person.
Whenever I see someone going through a tough time, I like to give them a really big hug. It puts a smile on their face. I never like to see people feeling down. Sometimes a hug can say more than words could ever explain. 
A hug can really take on its own language. It simplifies having to find the right words to say, and most importantly, it shows the other person how much you genuinely care. 
I love giving hugs, but nothing beats receiving them. Tight hugs from my boys makes everything a lot better. 
On tough days, a hug from our toddler always makes me smile. He understands that just being present is enough to make things better. I hope he never changes and that his baby brother learns this little technique. 🙂 

34 Comment

  1. I definitely appreciate a good hug from a close friend or someone I care about. And I'm quick to hand them out to those close to me, as well.

  2. You are so adorable as a parent. Love that you are a hug mom. That is so important for humans to get that snuggle…and love…and compassion!
    Karen |

  3. I agree with hugs! It makes me think about those first few weeks of motherhood, when you're so overwhelmed and sleep-exhausted. Just when things seem a little too much, you get that first baby smile and it makes it all worth it.

  4. I agree with you about the hugging. I come a very affectionate family and I wouldn't want it any other way. It's important to show people you care and hugging is a great way to do just that. Great post xx

  5. As an introvert with 3 kids who think I am a piece of furniture, I'm usually pretty touched out by the end of every day. Still, I try hard not to be the first one to let go when my kiddos hug me. I want them to know that even though I need my space I love their little guts.

  6. It's so funny because I hate when people touch me without my permission but I am a huge hugger. I'm the person who talks to you for half an hour and when you try to shake my hand goodbye, I'm like "No we hug it out."

  7. This post sure did made my heart long for my husband even more. Especially my mother / familys are in the Philippines and I am here in the East Coast while my hubby got deployed. I totally agree about togetherness.

  8. It's strange, we can be together someone, yet feeling alone, but we can be alone, but feel the togetherness with people we love. This a lovely post with beautiful message, togetherness.

  9. I love long walks but I'm not big on hugs. I'm sure they're pretty good for you but I just feel uncomfortable giving them although I really don't mind getting them. 🙂

  10. I miss taking long walks early in the morning. My pup was my walking companion. He has sinced passed and I have two kids who do not enjoy long QUIET walks as much as I do. 😉 The treadmill just isn't the same!

  11. You know, my mom and I didn't hug much growing up. I was a troubled teen who didn't think it was cool to hug mom. Now, we're best friends and live on the opposite sides of the country from one another. When we hug now, it's the best thing in the world!

  12. I think hugs are SO important. I grew up never being a hugger and now with my current boyfriend we are always hugging and expressing how much we care for each other. I think it's such an important yet often overlooked part of communication and happiness.

  13. Your last paragraph almost brought tears to my eyes. I am constantly trying to be more present. It's hard, but I find that just being near my kids helps. A hug, or even just a little touch, helps me stay in the moment. The kids grow so fast! I try to cherish every little moment!

  14. I'm definitely a hugger, too. I usually ask before hugging someone I don't know well, and it always makes me curious when someone seems hesitant to hug back.

  15. I like being hugged, but not so much giving hugs unless I know the person very well. I am not sure why. I also dont like it if its like a complete stranger to me who hugs upon meeting me, to me, thats just a little weird. But in many other countries its common to hug someone when you first meet them.

  16. I use to be such a hug hater! Like people would hug me and I would want to roll my eyes lol…. Now I can't get enough hugs. I actually think I go threw hug withdrawn when I don't get enough lol

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