How Togetherness Can Heal Your Soul

I’ve shared several times on my blog on how changing my mindset has helped me overcome the pain I experienced in my life.
You’re probably thinking what did I experience in the past to make me the person I am today. Enough. I’ve experienced enough. 
And sometimes, just knowing that you’ve been able to get through certain things in life is enough to show you that you can pretty much get through anything. 
Experience The Love 
My parents have always loved me, but growing up I always searched for it in other people. It wasn’t until I was in my last “teen” years that I realized there was more to life than finding love. Actually, I just reignited the fire with myself. 
If you ever get a chance to step outside on a beautiful day, and just go for a walk, you learn to appreciate the love you have found in nature. 
At 19, I became obsessed with long walks in the park. I took my friends with me on long walks just to see if they would appreciate it as much as I did. 
Some did, others just thought I was some type of hippie. 
I used to love going on walks with my dad. We’d go for lunch after. I loved taking him with me because he also enjoys nature walks. 
Regardless of who would tag along, I learned to just enjoy the time I spent with them. Talk about life, get to know what they were thinking. 
Parks are a great place to just forget about everything for a while. 
Becoming A Hug Monster
I don’t know anyone who doesn’t appreciate a big, tight hug. It says so much about the other person.
Whenever I see someone going through a tough time, I like to give them a really big hug. It puts a smile on their face. I never like to see people feeling down. Sometimes a hug can say more than words could ever explain. 
A hug can really take on its own language. It simplifies having to find the right words to say, and most importantly, it shows the other person how much you genuinely care. 
I love giving hugs, but nothing beats receiving them. Tight hugs from my boys makes everything a lot better. 
On tough days, a hug from our toddler always makes me smile. He understands that just being present is enough to make things better. I hope he never changes and that his baby brother learns this little technique. 🙂 

34 Comments

  1. Ordinary Mom@electricbreastpumpwomen.com

    April 6, 2016 at 9:12 AM

    Hugging feels so good. I still remember when we had little kids and no time for ourselves, me and my hubby would just hug each other for 2 minutes and all our tiredness, complains and issues just melted away!

    1. Fatima Lora

      April 6, 2016 at 9:53 AM

      I know exactly what you mean. Jeff does the same when I've had a rough day with the kids. Hugging really helps.

  2. Masshole Mommy

    April 6, 2016 at 10:18 AM

    Actually, I don't like to be hugged. I have personal space issues and will always back away from anyone who comes in for a hug – especially someone I don't know.

    1. Fatima Lora

      April 6, 2016 at 10:31 AM

      Really? That's interesting.

  3. Becca

    April 6, 2016 at 4:19 PM

    I definitely appreciate a good hug from a close friend or someone I care about. And I'm quick to hand them out to those close to me, as well.

    1. Fatima Lora

      April 6, 2016 at 6:47 PM

      Aww. That's awesome, Becca. It's always nice to give the love you receive! 🙂

  4. Karen Morse

    April 6, 2016 at 6:15 PM

    You are so adorable as a parent. Love that you are a hug mom. That is so important for humans to get that snuggle…and love…and compassion!
    Karen | GlamKaren.com

    1. Fatima Lora

      April 6, 2016 at 6:48 PM

      Hi Karen! Thank you. I try to take in all the snuggles I can get because these boys will one day try to avoid kisses from their mom. :/

  5. Terri Steffes

    April 6, 2016 at 7:27 PM

    I love mommy hugs the best, but any hug is a good hug! Great post.

  6. Justine Y @ Little Dove

    April 6, 2016 at 7:35 PM

    Totally agree with you about hugs. Especially my little boy. I always wonder how long he's going to think it's still acceptable to hug his mommy. 🙂

  7. Alicia Snow

    April 6, 2016 at 8:33 PM

    I agree with hugs! It makes me think about those first few weeks of motherhood, when you're so overwhelmed and sleep-exhausted. Just when things seem a little too much, you get that first baby smile and it makes it all worth it.

  8. Michele Katsaris

    April 6, 2016 at 9:10 PM

    I agree with you about the hugging. I come a very affectionate family and I wouldn't want it any other way. It's important to show people you care and hugging is a great way to do just that. Great post xx felinebykatsaris.com

  9. ana de jesus

    April 6, 2016 at 10:11 PM

    I love to be hugged. it makes me feel alive and giving people hugs especially friends and family is so lovely.

  10. Kait

    April 7, 2016 at 1:27 AM

    I'm not a mom, but I LOVE that you are a hug mom. My mom is the same way and it's just so endearing 🙂

  11. Amber N

    April 7, 2016 at 2:18 AM

    I was never hugged much as a kid, so I am not much of a hugger. Although I am trying to hug my kids more.

  12. Housewife Eclectic

    April 7, 2016 at 2:44 AM

    I love hugging my husband and my kids and do both frequently. Other than that, I am not much of a hugger.

  13. Jen Bosen

    April 7, 2016 at 3:23 AM

    As an introvert with 3 kids who think I am a piece of furniture, I'm usually pretty touched out by the end of every day. Still, I try hard not to be the first one to let go when my kiddos hug me. I want them to know that even though I need my space I love their little guts.

  14. All The Things I Do

    April 7, 2016 at 3:42 AM

    It's so funny because I hate when people touch me without my permission but I am a huge hugger. I'm the person who talks to you for half an hour and when you try to shake my hand goodbye, I'm like "No we hug it out."

  15. Angela Ricardo Bethea

    April 7, 2016 at 8:33 AM

    This post sure did made my heart long for my husband even more. Especially my mother / familys are in the Philippines and I am here in the East Coast while my hubby got deployed. I totally agree about togetherness.

  16. jillconyers

    April 7, 2016 at 8:36 AM

    I love the title of this post. I'm a being together kind of person. If you've ever read the 7 Love Languages, my love language is time. I cherish it.

  17. Veronica Pototska

    April 7, 2016 at 9:32 AM

    A hug from a close person has a healing effect, that is definitely true! There's so much support in it!
    Thank you for sharing your beautiful post with us.

  18. Rose Sahetapy

    April 7, 2016 at 10:26 AM

    It's strange, we can be together someone, yet feeling alone, but we can be alone, but feel the togetherness with people we love. This a lovely post with beautiful message, togetherness.

  19. Amanda Love

    April 7, 2016 at 1:25 PM

    I love long walks but I'm not big on hugs. I'm sure they're pretty good for you but I just feel uncomfortable giving them although I really don't mind getting them. 🙂

  20. Roxanne Ferber

    April 7, 2016 at 2:34 PM

    I miss taking long walks early in the morning. My pup was my walking companion. He has sinced passed and I have two kids who do not enjoy long QUIET walks as much as I do. 😉 The treadmill just isn't the same!

  21. Stephanie Nielsen

    April 7, 2016 at 11:25 PM

    You know, my mom and I didn't hug much growing up. I was a troubled teen who didn't think it was cool to hug mom. Now, we're best friends and live on the opposite sides of the country from one another. When we hug now, it's the best thing in the world!

  22. Caroline @ In Due Time

    April 8, 2016 at 12:08 AM

    I can't wait for the day I get to hug my kiddos. For now, my husband is my hug monster! He LOVES hugs!

  23. C

    April 8, 2016 at 12:29 AM

    I think hugs are SO important. I grew up never being a hugger and now with my current boyfriend we are always hugging and expressing how much we care for each other. I think it's such an important yet often overlooked part of communication and happiness.

  24. Hannah Rinaldi

    April 8, 2016 at 1:08 AM

    Your last paragraph almost brought tears to my eyes. I am constantly trying to be more present. It's hard, but I find that just being near my kids helps. A hug, or even just a little touch, helps me stay in the moment. The kids grow so fast! I try to cherish every little moment!

  25. Paula

    April 8, 2016 at 2:09 AM

    I'm definitely a hugger, too. I usually ask before hugging someone I don't know well, and it always makes me curious when someone seems hesitant to hug back.

  26. Heather

    April 8, 2016 at 3:30 PM

    I love hugs! My kids are always requiring them, and I am not shying away from it. In fact I am soaking up as much as I can!

  27. Mariah Meyer

    April 9, 2016 at 1:34 AM

    I like being hugged, but not so much giving hugs unless I know the person very well. I am not sure why. I also dont like it if its like a complete stranger to me who hugs upon meeting me, to me, thats just a little weird. But in many other countries its common to hug someone when you first meet them.

  28. CourtneyLynne

    April 9, 2016 at 4:11 AM

    I use to be such a hug hater! Like people would hug me and I would want to roll my eyes lol…. Now I can't get enough hugs. I actually think I go threw hug withdrawn when I don't get enough lol

  29. Hannah Adkins

    April 12, 2016 at 2:10 AM

    I love taking long walks too! Its great to just let your mind wander and get out there and enjoy nature

  30. Karissa Ancell

    April 12, 2016 at 2:44 AM

    I like hugs from my husband and especially my daughter. Only people I'm really closed to for the most part.

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