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One Simple Secret To Turning Mom Fails Into Mom Wins

From sleepless nights to hectic mornings, there’s something to be said about a mom who is determined to succeed.

Most of what being a blogger/influencer means is engaging with other parents and discussing your everyday struggles. Whether it’s on a blog post or in a social post, it’s always interesting to see how others tackle things that come their way.

As a parent, you’re constantly trying to do what’s best for you and your family. A lot of the times the two won’t coincide. There are days when everything will go according to plan, and then there are others that make you question your sanity.

Regardless, there’s something about the moments that remind you of why you continue to work through the madness.

If you’ve been following us on Instagram, then you know of a recent mom fail I had experienced with our five-year-old son.

Focus On The Juggling Act

Hearing that our son needed extra attention at school was tough for me. It reminded me of the reason I started working from home — to be with our kids.

On most days, working from home is a blessing. However, there are moments I feel as though I need a breather from it all. Oftentimes I would tell myself I need to find a balance. Such a funny word for something that actually feels like a juggling act.

That word — balance — made me question what it meant to run a household and a business from home.

That’s when it hit me. I needed to let go of the idea that everything on my plate was a balancing act because it isn’t.

When you balance things you have two endpoints that you need to evenly distribute the weight. In life, we don’t get to experience that balance.

On most days, we’re being pulled from one direction to the next. We don’t get the luxury of not tipping the scale. The truth is, something will require your attention today, and another will require your attention the next.

That’s how the juggling act works. No matter what is thrown your way, you keep calm and continue on.

Is there really a balance, or is it a juggling act? When I changed my mindset and focused more on the juggling act that comes with “doing it all”, I realized things started to fall into place.

Instead of being reactive, I became proactive. Juggling things simultaneously instead of trying to find that happy-medium was what I need to understand before I could better plan my day.

Let’s face it, things will come up. Sick days happen, deadlines get switched. If you’re trying to balance everything, then you’ll notice the scale will begin to slowly tip over.

With time, you learn that crying doesn’t help and neither does complaining. The thing that does help is revamping your strategy and making time for the essentials.

I remember reading about Randi Zuckerberg’s Pick Three strategy, and it’s what I tell myself whenever I feel overwhelmed with everyday life. I choose three things I want to focus on for the week. Currently, it’s family, self-care. and work. I do my best to juggle between those three things.

Have you had any mom fails lately? Tell us in a comment below!

Former B2B editor and marketing manager turned Family & Lifestyle blogger. Fatima is passionate about life and being social. When she isn't running around with her husband, three kids, and two pups, Fatima helps other bloggers and local businesses with their online marketing strategy. If you have any questions or would like to connect, feel free to reach out via email: tima@motherhoodthroughmyeyes.com

32 Comments

  • GiGi Eats Celebrities

    I don’t really see anything I do as a mother as a fail. I find the things I do to be learning experiences. I have no idea what I am doing – hahaha! So I really just go with the flow and if something doesn’t work out, well, I know better for next time! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  • Alli Smith

    My kids are all grown now but I had plenty of mom fails back in the day. We can’t be too hard on ourselves because the successes always seem to outweigh the fails.

  • CAit

    Yes totally agree with this – I make mistakes daily and yet my kids will give me a huge hug and say I love you. Weโ€™re all doing our best ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Amber

    Oh yeah, I’ve had tons of mom fails. I look at them all as lessons. I do my best at the end of the day and try not to stress. Parenting is tough! No one is perfect.

  • Sarah Bailey

    I shall have to share this with some friends, I am sure at times it can be hard feeling you are going through Mum fails, but you can learn and turn them into wins for sure.

  • Joanna

    I am not a mom, but I do feel that I fails some days. And I think that is normal, as life can sometimes overwhelm us. It’s important to see beyond it though and move forward, always move forward. Solutions will come.

  • Stacie

    Mindset is everything! You can’t control everything but you can control how you think about it. That is most important to remember if you’re a mom.

  • Theresa

    I like how you narrow down to working on 3 things per week. I think that’s definitely a manageable plan for most of us to try without failing.

  • Tasheena Nicole Johnson

    I really enjoyed reading this post. I love your perceptive on this. Having the right mindset is so important.

  • Rhonda Albom

    I love the idea of pick three. And it all goes so fast, I can remember when my girls were little, now they are adults, and I still get burned out.

  • Norma

    Great advise! It’s important to learn from our failures and mistakes. I agree that on most days, working from home is a blessing. However, there are moments when we need a breather from it all.

  • Meagen Brosius

    Our mindset can control so much about our lives! I don’t have any kids but I see how easy it is for my mom friends to fall victim to the mom guilt that comes along with those “fails”!

  • Kathy

    I can certainly relate to this too. I know I feel like I have some of these mom fails sometimes. I just try my best to balance it all out the best I can.

  • Ruth I

    You are so right! I am not a mom yet, but I can’t find my balance in everything. I need to change my perspective.

  • Lyosha Varezhkina

    Sounds awesome! I will do my best to remember your advise when I become a mom (which I hope will happen soon)

  • NaturalBeautyAndMakeup(Ana)

    I am not a mom yet so have no idea how I would react or tackle this kind of situation. My sister who is a mom to a cute girl, she often blames herself for any mistake and complains about life balancing struggle and all. I must share this post with her โ˜บ

  • Beth

    Pick Three sounds like a great strategy. Being a human is hard. We are all going to make mistakes, and hopefully survive them and become wiser!

  • Katie

    You definitely have to choose your battles, prioritize and enjoy some down time. Moms can’t do everything but they can do what’s most important.

  • kishastewartharris

    I’ve learned that in my most stressful mommy moments, it’s best to step back and breathe. Even counting down from ten will sometimes give me the space to turn a stressful moment around. We are so hard on ourselves as moms and we need to give ourselves permission to check out sometimes.

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