Being a mother can be a wonderful experience. But when you have to take on two roles — both mother and father — it gets tough. Natasha Peter, blogger at Epic Mommy Adventures, shares her experience as a single parent. Below is her feedback.
MomViews: There has to be a name for a mother that can do it all on her own. You’d make Superwoman jealous. You have a wonderful little boy who is full of adventures. How do you keep up with him?
Natasha Peter: Some days are more difficult than others, but overall, a lot of it has to do with creating a mental schedule of when we do things. I have learned to distract him when needed, engage in tons of play at other times, and relax with him at other times. He’s a great child, I must admit, and he makes being a single parent that much easier to deal with.
MV: What role does Micah’s father play in his life? Is he an active father?
NP: Micah’s father does play a big role in his life; however, he is not as active as I would like him to be. We have set up child support and shared custody, where Micah goes to his house every other weekend. He does not attend events or activities at Micah’s school nor is he involved when Micah is ill. We are co-parenting in the sense that Micah goes to his house every other weekend, but beyond that, he is not overly involved.
MV: Did you face any issues when you decided single-parenting was the best for your son?
NP: It was really hard deciding to leave Micah’s father and becoming a single parent. I questioned if I was doing the right thing or whether or not we’d be able to make it. I faced judgment and criticism from some, but overall I experienced tons of support.My mom was living near us at the time and she was a huge help in making the transition very easy. We have had some hard times but we have persevered.
MV: What is it about Micah that you love most?
NP: I really love everything about Micah. He is smart, adorable, full of energy, sassy and possibly the most lovable child you will meet. He can warm your heart with these incredible hugs. I have friends that come over when they’re having a rough day just to get one of his hugs. I also love that he makes me strong – he forces me to believe that any thing is possible and that we will be okay. Even on the roughest of days and there have been plenty, I know that we will come through fine.
MV: What advice would you give to a single parent struggling to raise their child(ren)?
NP: There is a light at the end of the tunnel. It doesn’t seem that way when you’re in the darkness, but soon enough, you will see the light at the end and you’ll gladly walk towards it. Support of others is also huge. Even if your support is not friends or family, there are people willing to be there for you and to help you through all the difficult times and laugh with you during the good times. You will be okay in time.
Be sure to check out Natasha’s blog, Epic Mommy Adventures and say hi on Twitter. Next week’s session will share insights from a former teacher who decided to homeschool her children. Stay tuned!
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