MomViews is back, and I couldn’t have picked a better way to reintroduce this series than to interview Melissa Roy from Beyond Mommying on the love/hate relationship she has with her blog. Like Melissa, I often find myself rethinking whether or not I should continue working on my blog. Having two little ones sounds like a handful, but when I heard what Melissa has on her plate, I began to thank my lucky stars.
MomViews: Blogging wasn’t your first passion, yet you can’t seem to fully give up on it. You mentioned in one of your posts how it’s never been about making money. For you, blogging is about making connections. Can you share how blogging has helped you develop relationships with others?
Melissa Roy: Blogging was not something I’d ever considered before deciding to start Beyond Mommying but I’ve always really enjoyed writing. Blogging, though, has helped me find a place in the world where I can be 100% me. It has allowed me to connect to other mommies who have similar experiences and while my readers and followers aren’t always very interactive, Beyond Mommying has grown steadily over the years and I know I have a lot of regular visitors. As an introvert, I don’t mind if I don’t get a big response because I’m not outwardly responsive myself but knowing that people are coming back again and again, keeps me going, knowing that my words are reaching people.The comments and reactions I do receive, though, always let me know that what I am doing is affecting other mommies, giving them an “at least I’m not alone” feeling and that’s all I’ve ever wanted: to show real motherhood in all it’s glory, beauty, and struggle.
MV: You’re also a full-time mom, ballet teacher and as of lately, a homeschool teacher for your little ones. How do you manage to find time to blog about your everyday life as well?
MR: Truthfully, blogging can often be a challenge with everything else I have going on but I choose to consistently make it a priority. Even though it doesn’t bring in a lot of income for our family, I still consider it my job and treat it as such. I do most of my blog work while the kids are napping (we have daily “rest time” for everyone) and after bed as well as in the morning while my girls are doing their schoolwork. It’s definitely a juggling act to get everything done but somehow it works.
MV: If you could describe blogging in one word, what would it be and why?
MR: Overwhelming. I started blogging on a whim without any idea what I was doing. I bumbled through setting up my own website and began writing without knowing the tiniest thing about blogging. I’d been at it for a full year before I even know you could make money at it! But now, I am constantly looking at things that tell the rights and wrongs of blogging, the what you have to-dos to be successful and the what you should never do and it has made blogging a lot more complicated for me. I miss the early days of simply writing up my thoughts, hitting publish and sharing to Facebook before going on with my day and sometimes wish I was still in that naive place but I know that Beyond Mommying would not be what it is today if I didn’t put in the time and energy to help it grow and thrive.
MV: Your husband seems to be one of your biggest supporters. You mentioned how he’s urged you to continue with Beyond Mommying. How often do you discuss your blog with him?
MR: We pretty much only discuss it when it involves matters of time and money. Because income is not my top priority, I always clear expenses with him (even though he always tells me I don’t have to ask!) and whenever I’d like to attend an event I also have to check with him since I usually need someone to watch the kids. I do, though, share all my blogging wins with him like when I get published somewhere new or get a viral pin from Pinterest and he will sometimes ask how things are going.He knows that I enjoy blogging and that it gives me a purpose and outlet that is all my own so does everything he can to support me in being the best I can.
MV: What has been the best blogging tip you’ve received since starting your website?
MR: That’s a tough one because there is so much information out there but I would probably have to say the advice from a fellow local blogger to make my pictures just as important as my text. I started out just using old family pictures without any editing and always made them small as to not “interfere” with my stories but I’ve since learned the importance of large, high-quality images in helping to tell my stories. I think high-quality, supporting pictures demonstrate an attention to detail and that you take your blogging job seriously and also that you take the time to produce a product you’re proud of.
Former B2B editor and marketer turned Family & Lifestyle blogger. Fatima is passionate about life and being social.
When she isn't running around with her husband, three kids, and two pups, Fatima helps other bloggers and local businesses with their online marketing strategy.
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