MomViews: Perfectly Imperfect
Life is of perception, and your personal life is as good as you believe it to be. For some moms, scrubbing their home until everything is spotless — every single day — sounds like a thing of the past. Today, Connie Gomez, blogger at Momma of Dos, shares details about her perfectly imperfect life with her adventurous family.
MomViews: You have been documenting your New Year’s resolutions on your blog, and I just love that. This year, it is all about being happy, regaining peace and doing more. How have you and your family been able to keep this resolution so far?
Connie Gomez: When the year started I told myself that this year would be about peace, and don’t worry about others outside of our little family of four. Not because we don’t care but because we need to focus on where we want to be! I think that as far as inner and mental peace our little family has definitely regained this and in return become happier by doing so. This year for me “doing more” meant putting my blog out there and allowing myself to be open to new and exciting opportunities. Oh boy, did this happen. I also set out to be more supportive for my Hubby and allowing him to gain his space and have hobbies and “me time”. We both deserve it and I know it has worked. We are fulfilled in our marriage and in our home, to us for now, that’s what matters most. Do all of our plans flow as we envision them? No, of course not. There are always hiccups along the way and sometimes a lot of long late night conversations.
MV: I love the honesty on your blog. It seems as though happiness is more important than mundane tasks, such as cleaning. Does that ever become a problem?
CG: Funny Story. We have a friend that comes over and visits often. One day the chaos was so big in our house that he walked in, and quickly said, “eh, I’ll see ya’ later.” True. Most days I allow my children to be free, make a mess and I enjoy the time with them taking pictures or setting up our next blog adventure! Involving them is part of the fun. When they were little I was extremely worried about my house being perfectly clean but as they both became toddlers and keeping up with the Jones’ became literally impossible, I stopped. Cleaning can wait. And, most days it does. Is it a problem? Only when people come over who are not used to our messes. Then the embarrassment is real. Which is NOT always so much that people walk right back out, but just enough so that people have to step over toys and drink from paper cups. If it’s not a big deal to you, it is rarely one for us. We do have clean up time and I wash my restrooms and change our sheets regularly. Just sayin’!
MV: As a mom of two, what has been the biggest challenge for you so far?
Time. I recently read an article about home and work mash-up and most days, I do overlap work with home time. But, on most days, I just wish I had more time to just sit and listen to my Cami tell endless stories about her daycare classmates and teachers, that girl can talk. Or sit and watch some crazy YouTube show with my little man, he is growing so fast. I have spent the last 5 years of his life working outside the home in Corporate America with a brief intermission for 8 months when I stayed home with both my kids. I miss those days but I do love having a career and being a part of providing financially for my family. I think that has been my biggest challenge. The time spent away from them and the time that I have to give up to be able to fulfill my career needs. It’s probably why we try our absolute best to make the most of our weekends. We party like rockstars and eat lots of ice cream and chocolate, which is probably another reason why our house is always so messy, haha!
MV: You and your husband seem to make a great team. What do you love most about your marriage?
I wish we had cameras following us. He would secretly love it. I think that our marriage is truly honest, open and while we have so much in common and that we agree upon, it’s the small difference that help us balance one another. He has taught me not to be so gullible and trusting and I have taught him to take selfies, it’s a win-win situation. He always jokes that if he ever chooses to grace my blog by writing a guest post that my numbers would go off the charts! And, that’s usually how we start our days, with truths and competition. Laughing at each other and ourselves. We have fun. We talk business. And, we agree on how to raise our children, the only thing we can’t agree on is bed time. I am a night owl and he likes to be in bed by 9:30 p.m. I make sure the noise stays out of our bedroom and work until the wee’hours. It’s been almost 17 years in the making, we make it work, we love one another and he supports all my crazy ideas!
MV: What advice would you give a mom who feels overwhelmed with everyday tasks and thinks there really isn’t enough time for “fun” in parenting?
HAVE FUN! As cliché as this may sound…. Life really is too short and time really does pass you by. One Momma friend who now has 4 teens now; told me at the beginning of my journey into Momma-hood; “Connie! You will always have dishes to wash and clothes to put away BUT trust me your children will NEVER be this age again!” That was 3 years ago; my son just turned 5 and my daughter will be 4 in March, and to this day I think about her words. So Momma’s please, enjoy your family and enjoy life; not just for them but for yourself as well. Take a break, relax and know that at the end of the day you will get the important things done, the little things accomplished but nothing will be more fulfilling than having your kids hug you and kiss you and hearing them tell you, “Mom today was awesome!”
Thanks for joining me this week. Stop by next Wednesday for more insights from moms like you. Also, do not forget to check out last week’s post on the top 10 Most-Read MomViews.