What Time Has Taught Me About Kindness

Time has been one of my greatest mentors. Why you ask? Because it’s taught me the value in being kind to others, including myself. 
At the age of 10 I “volunteered” at a nursing home. Well, I was forced to help out during that summer because my mom didn’t want me home with my youngest brother. Somehow he got away with staying home and I was stuck going to the nursing home every weekday. 
I hated being forced to go. But that wasn’t the first time my mom did that to me. See: dance school for 15 years, and all-girl Catholic high school. 

At 15, my decision to return to the nursing home was my own. And this time I brought friends. We had to do community service hours for our high school so we chose my mom’s job at the nursing home. 
I was in a different stage in my life, and something about being around nuns all the time that makes you appreciate the people around you a little more (or maybe that was just me).

This was the time I met Felix, my adopted grandfather. I adopted him into my family because I never really knew either of my grandfathers and Felix was one of the few patients I felt a connection with. 
Before Felix there was Geniveve, a sweet, funny lady who was bound to a wheelchair, and Jean, a former piano player who had diabetes. 
Every patient had a story to tell, and I loved hearing about them. 
With Felix, we clicked because of his humor, and we shared the same Dominican background.
Developing Patience Over Time
The lessons I learned from my time from my experience at the nursing home have followed me throughout life. 
Learning to make the best out of every situation is key to a happy life. 

The tough times make you appreciate the good ones, and the good ones… Well, you just always look forward to those. 🙂

Becoming a parent has also helped me develop patience, not only for my children, but for others around me. 
Before kids, I didn’t like messy babies (and to some extent, I still don’t). 
But today, things are different. I understand that a mess only means the kids are having fun, learning something new, and that you’ll eventually clean it up. 
Mornings are lot calmer these days. We let our toddler sleep in a little longer and worry less about getting in on time and just get excited on the days we get there before class starts. 
And when there’s traffic on the road, or just someone who is busy looking down instead of getting passed the traffic light I keep calm. I understand what it is to be searching for something at a stoplight, or even caring for a child who is in the backseat. 
I don’t remember the last time I used the horn, and that’s a good thing. 
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  1. Masshole Mommy

    March 8, 2016 at 3:50 PM

    I am the exact opposite. Time has made me less tolerant and more impatient.

  2. Jessica Foley

    March 8, 2016 at 4:52 PM

    I like these musings. I'm always striving to stay relaxed in my day-to-day life. I have an abundance of kindness, but sometimes my impatience overshadows this. Nice mindful post. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Deb Clem-Buckert

    March 8, 2016 at 5:39 PM

    I agree that you have to make the best of everything. I have a sick child and I have people say, "I feel so sorry for you" all the time. Why? I don't.

  4. Charlotte TheMummyToolbox

    March 8, 2016 at 6:29 PM

    I am not sure that I have gotten to this stage yet, some things have taught me to be kind and tolerable but I am definitely still guilty of losing my temper and patience in the heat of the moment!

  5. Jena

    March 8, 2016 at 7:43 PM

    Just what I needed to read today. Thank you 🙂

  6. Becca

    March 8, 2016 at 8:23 PM

    I definitely think time and experiences can soften a person. I know it has done so for me.

  7. Mamal Diane

    March 8, 2016 at 9:34 PM

    That is where I'm at. I take my time, enjoy my surroundings. I have definitely become less anxious and more patient. It feels wonderful.

  8. ana de jesus

    March 8, 2016 at 10:11 PM

    I worked with the elderly through my last of year of university and it was physically and emotionally taxing but it did teach me one thing. Even if you are not the best at something as long as you try hard its ok.

  9. Mandi @ Moments With Mandi

    March 9, 2016 at 2:03 AM

    I'm working on patience. I think with time it will come, and it already has, bit by bit. Time definitely can change a lot of things about ourselves. Great post!

  10. Laci Carlson

    March 9, 2016 at 2:17 AM

    I can truthfully say I am definitely a very kind person !!! And I tend to be drawn to other kind souls.

  11. Housewife Eclectic

    March 9, 2016 at 3:58 AM

    My mom always says that everyone can always afford to be kind. I try to keep it in mind at all times!

  12. Laura - Eye Candy Creative Studio

    March 9, 2016 at 5:36 AM

    I agree with you that parenthood has made me more of a patient person. Granted I still need to work on it but the older I get, it gets better too.

  13. Veronica Pototska

    March 9, 2016 at 8:10 AM

    I told you earlier that I love your blog. You are so open about your feelings and experiences. Love love love!

  14. Megan McCoig

    March 9, 2016 at 8:25 AM

    I agree that every moment should be made the most of. Such a moving story that you adopted one of the patients as a member of your family! Love this post 🙂

  15. Author TP Keane

    March 9, 2016 at 4:59 PM

    I also worked in a nursing home for many years. It's tough going and often unappreciated work. I also had many adopted grandfathers and grandmothers. Great post.

  16. Rose Sahetapy

    March 9, 2016 at 6:36 PM

    Life can teach us a lot. Connecting with the world around us will help us understand ourselves better, and others as well. I love this story!

  17. jillconyers

    March 9, 2016 at 9:18 PM

    Time and experience are the best teachers. Everything happens for a reason.

  18. Shannon Graham

    March 9, 2016 at 11:15 PM

    My mom used to do things like this to me too but now that I'm older, I'm glad she did. I learned many valuable things.

  19. Tough Cookie Mommy

    March 12, 2016 at 2:41 AM

    You are so right, tough times definitely make you appreciate the good times so much more. I believe that every struggle makes you who you are and that you grow from overcoming every obstacle that stands in your way throughout your life.

  20. Stacey D

    March 13, 2016 at 6:57 AM

    This is totally in line with my thinking. Life is short – every moment counts. And how better then to spend those moments with calmness and kindness.

  21. CourtneyLynne

    March 14, 2016 at 12:34 AM

    I definitely think the older ingest the more kinder I am! The older I get the more life experience and the more I understand other people 😉

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