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Why I Rarely Visit Family And Friends

I’ve been asked several times to go out of my way and visit people. 
When we first moved to South Florida, it was tough to get out of the house with an infant. 
And now with a toddler and an infant, it’s a lot harder. 
People always suggest getting together. And I don’t mind, but I like to do it when Jeff is available to come with me. 
An Extra Set Of Hands
I like to rely on myself for as much as I can, but sometimes I really need an extra set of arms to help with the boys. 
Jeff is my best friend. I love being around him and I prefer to go to with him and the boys. 
End of story. 
…Or is it? 
It’s not that I don’t want to hang out with family members or friends, it’s just that I need the extra set of hands that some people don’t provide.
Jeff and I have been raising our boys since day one, and we know how to deal with tantrums, and why they’re happening. 
The truth is, I don’t trust everyone with my kids. I’ve only left my son in the care of her preschool, my parents and his aunt. 
Not to say I don’t trust anyone else, it’s just necessary evils I have to do. Preschool was scary at first, but I fell in love with my toddler’s teacher. She’s a sweetheart and really sees the potential in all the kids. 
If you have a family member or friend who is a new mom or has a toddler and an infant like me, you can try doing these three things:
1. Offer to help ahead of time. 
As I mentioned before, I don’t go out of my way to visit family and friends on my own because I really need the extra set of hands that very few ever provide. If you explain to your family member or friend that you’re willing to help when they arrive, they might reconsider. 
2. Set up an area for them to have their child(ren) play. 
One thing I like to do to prepare for the arrival of family and friends with little ones is to create an area where they can allow their child(ren) to play. This makes it easier for them to keep an eye on the little ones. 
3. Whatever you plan, include the kids.
I can’t stress enough how important it is for me to know the kids are welcomed wherever I go. I will avoid family gatherings and events that don’t allow me to bring my sons because, although I spend most of my day with them, I miss my boys when I’m away. 
Have something to add? Let’s discuss on Anchor via #ParentsofAnchor. Also, check out the Facebook group my friend Erin and I have put together. 

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