Why Confidence Matters

Our children are watching us every step of the way, and there are a number of lessons we want them to take from us.

One of these teachings is the importance of being confident. Out of all of the qualities I looked for in a relationship, confidence was always a priority. There’s nothing more attractive than a person who is sure of themselves and their capabilities.

For us, these qualities are also important in the friendships we create with others.

Teaching Your Kids It’s Okay

Being able to build that confidence in our children is key for us. We don’t want our little ones to feel they can’t be themselves around others. Nor do we want them to care what anyone else has to say about it.

I recently got into a discussion with a friend about the importance of being okay when someone walks out of your life. She mentioned how people tell us how we should find a way to be friendly with others.

Personally, I don’t like that approach. In fact, my husband and I tell our boys the opposite. It’s okay to let someone walk away, and there’s no reason to be upset about it. We remind them of the importance of appreciating the time you’ve had with others. That’s how you build character.

Creating A Tough Skin

With time, you learn that there’s value in being true to yourself. The best way to approach situations in life is to admit where there’s room for improvement and work on those areas.

I sat down the other day and shared my thoughts on something with someone. It was probably not the best person to discuss this with, but I knew they’d let the other person know so I made it a point to bring it up.

My husband gave me a nudge to remind me that it wasn’t the best idea, but honestly, I come from a family that strongly believes in telling the other person how they feel. Isn’t communication key?

That’s been my approach lately, and I think a lot of people could benefit from having a friend/family member who calls you out on your BS than to applaud you when you’re wrong.

Cutting ties with someone is the same as cutting ties with things. If it’s not working, then it’s not working. Having tough skin will save you the headaches. Oftentimes a tough skin comes with experience and reminding yourself of the reasons why you shouldn’t be upset.

Have you ever been in a situation when you felt you needed to grow a tough skin? Share your experience below!


  1. Confidence is something that I’ve struggled with my entire life. I did realize recently that my girls were picking up on those things so I’ve been making more of an effort to do better.

  2. Since I have 3 kids, I do try to exude confidence. I see them watching me carefully and I do not want to mess up.

  3. I do think learning how to take criticism or advice from people who care about you is helpful. It’s not always easy!

  4. I love this post. It is so hard for me with the tough skin. This was good.

  5. I hope my children feel confident about themselves and feel like they can just be themselves. My daughter is an adult now and I have a teenage son. I do know that I am a work in progress.

  6. I am always with my niece and yes, I can see how I influence her. We try to raise her with confidence but most of the time, it’s me who has the problem.

    1. That’s beautiful, Ruth. Sharing it with your niece shows her the value in being true to herself.

  7. Building confidence is something I have really been working on the past few years. I want my children to be confident and I am so glad they don’t struggle with the same issues I did as a kid which will help them to have more confidence. In learning how to be better I can teach my daughters to be confident and kind.

    1. You’re a beautiful and kind mom. Confidence is everything and you always want to teach your children how to own it.

  8. It’s so important to build real confidence like you talked about, rather than the shallow kind that the world tells us can be had by simply repeating an affirmation or wearing a t-shirt. Knowledge, valuable experiences and learning from example are all great ways to truly instill lasting confidence.

    1. Yes, the shallow kind can actually hurt you in the end.

  9. I always work on being confident. It’s not always easy. But I know I need to for my kids because I want them to be confident.

  10. I am trying hard to instill confidence in my kiddo. Sometimes he is VERY confident and sometimes not yet. I know how it matters in this world and I want him to feel like he can do anything.

    1. I’ve been there, Jeanette. It has to come from within sometimes. Hang in there!

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