Oct 082019
Why Confidence Matters

Our children are watching us every step of the way, and there are a number of lessons we want them to take from us.

One of these teachings is the importance of being confident. Out of all of the qualities I looked for in a relationship, confidence was always a priority. There’s nothing more attractive than a person who is sure of themselves and their capabilities.

For us, these qualities are also important in the friendships we create with others.

Teaching Your Kids It’s Okay

Being able to build that confidence in our children is key for us. We don’t want our little ones to feel they can’t be themselves around others. Nor do we want them to care what anyone else has to say about it.

I recently got into a discussion with a friend about the importance of being okay when someone walks out of your life. She mentioned how people tell us how we should find a way to be friendly with others.

Personally, I don’t like that approach. In fact, my husband and I tell our boys the opposite. It’s okay to let someone walk away, and there’s no reason to be upset about it. We remind them of the importance of appreciating the time you’ve had with others. That’s how you build character.

Creating A Tough Skin

With time, you learn that there’s value in being true to yourself. The best way to approach situations in life is to admit where there’s room for improvement and work on those areas.

I sat down the other day and shared my thoughts on something with someone. It was probably not the best person to discuss this with, but I knew they’d let the other person know so I made it a point to bring it up.

My husband gave me a nudge to remind me that it wasn’t the best idea, but honestly, I come from a family that strongly believes in telling the other person how they feel. Isn’t communication key?

That’s been my approach lately, and I think a lot of people could benefit from having a friend/family member who calls you out on your BS than to applaud you when you’re wrong.

Cutting ties with someone is the same as cutting ties with things. If it’s not working, then it’s not working. Having tough skin will save you the headaches. Oftentimes a tough skin comes with experience and reminding yourself of the reasons why you shouldn’t be upset.

Have you ever been in a situation when you felt you needed to grow a tough skin? Share your experience below!

Fatima Torres

What's life like with three kids and two pups? It's entertaining, that's for sure! MTME breaks down family fun ideas and shares personal insights from a former B2B editor and digital marketer turned mom running a business and a household -- all under one roof. With her husband as her #1 fan, there isn't anything she can't accomplish. Read on to learn how she breathes in fire and exhales success.


Reader Comments

  1. Confidence is something that I’ve struggled with my entire life. I did realize recently that my girls were picking up on those things so I’ve been making more of an effort to do better.

  2. Since I have 3 kids, I do try to exude confidence. I see them watching me carefully and I do not want to mess up.

  3. I hope my children feel confident about themselves and feel like they can just be themselves. My daughter is an adult now and I have a teenage son. I do know that I am a work in progress.

  4. I am always with my niece and yes, I can see how I influence her. We try to raise her with confidence but most of the time, it’s me who has the problem.

  5. Building confidence is something I have really been working on the past few years. I want my children to be confident and I am so glad they don’t struggle with the same issues I did as a kid which will help them to have more confidence. In learning how to be better I can teach my daughters to be confident and kind.

  6. It’s so important to build real confidence like you talked about, rather than the shallow kind that the world tells us can be had by simply repeating an affirmation or wearing a t-shirt. Knowledge, valuable experiences and learning from example are all great ways to truly instill lasting confidence.

  7. I am trying hard to instill confidence in my kiddo. Sometimes he is VERY confident and sometimes not yet. I know how it matters in this world and I want him to feel like he can do anything.

  8. My daughter needs to hear this right now. She’s trying to be nice to an ex, but frankly it isn’t working. You’re right. Cutting out people should be as easy as cutting out things. I am going to forward this article to her so maybe it will finally sink in that it’s ok to just walk away.

    1. Yes! Lyndee, there’s nothing more rewarding than focusing on the essentials. Yourself and those who love and respect you. People who don’t understand that can go elsewhere. 🙂

  9. I am confident a majority of the time but there are instances where I have been in the situation where I questioned things. But it wasn’t me that was the problem in this certain situation. It’s tough making hard calls to end a relationship with someone toxic but in the end you will be okay.

  10. This used to be an issue for me. Confidence is tough to have especially if you’ve been bullied or discriminated when you were younger. But I do believe on how important it is in life. We will definitely have tough moments but building our confidence will make us stronger and more resilient!

  11. As a mom, I couldn’t agree with you more about building that confidence in our children. It wasn’t easy for me to build my own confidence but as I grew older I learned how much it helps me with the challenges that I face every single day.

  12. This is such a wonderful post. I think everyone should have confidence in everything. I know it can be hard at times, but I try myself to be as confidence as possible.

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