Dec 022019

When I started this parenting journey with my spouse, I didn’t think it would be this much fun. Three kids later and you’d never believe we met at a car dealership. I shared our story in a previous post.

I’ve always known that I’m not the easiest person to deal with, yet my partener makes it look like it’s a pleasure.

I remember when we started dating and how simple it was for him and me to connect. Being in his arms felt like I was home.

Everything just felt right, and it still feels the same now, but it’s for a different reason.

I’ve always felt a connection to him and when we started a family I took on a new role as a stay-at-home mom. My spouse took on a lot of the financial aspect of our relationship, he’s always been supportive of my ideas. This is one of the reasons why I tell other working moms about the value of having a supportive husband.

When we moved to South Florida, I knew I didn’t want to just be home. He knew that wasn’t part of my plan.

Starting A Business Together

Although I began Motherhood Through My Eyes prior to our move, it wasn’t until discussing some ideas with my partner that I decided to focus my blog as a business. Every chance I could, I was coming up with ideas.

My spouse has always been a huge part of my blog even if I don’t mention him as often. This is why the logo of my brand has two palm trees. He’s the one in the background, keeping me sane.

Having a supportive husband has taught me the value of working as a team. At first, we considered ourselves the tag-teaming duo. It wasn’t until we began working on projects together that I noticed there was a true connection between us.

I remember one time I had to head to an event at night and I almost backed down because I didn’t want to leave him home with our firstborn on his day off from work. I wanted to spend time with him, but he told me to go.

That night, I connected with a group of mom bloggers who’ve forever changed my mindset. I’ve learned to hustle a lot harder than ever before and I’ve developed a close relationship with a handful of these women.

Throughout the years, my partner has continued to be like a business partner. I consult ideas with him, we visit clients together and he’s even helped me create images and videos for them. How cool is he?

Like most business partnerships, we’ve had our issues. I remember when I began freelancing to earn extra cash. The side hustle came between our relationship because I was no longer making time for my partner. Instead, I was handing off our children as he walked into the door and running to my laptop.

I know, it sounds terrible. However, it was the only way to meet deadlines every night.

Having A Supportive Husband Doesn’t Mean He’s Perfect

Not many people know that I bounce ideas with my spouse every week. My husband is always in the background of everything, helping me get through life with three kids and two pups.

However, it wasn’t always a blessing to work on my blog. In fact, while I was building my business, I was hurting our family.

By ignoring him when he walked into the door and not making time for him, I was turning our relationship into a routine — something I never wanted it to be.

Bumping heads was just what we needed to realize how much we weren’t making time for each other. Looking back, it’s scary to think about how preoccupied we were with everything but each other.

One thing I’ve been working on since our talk is on how to spend more time with those I love, regardless of the deadlines.

This reminder was what I needed to get back to the things that mattered and why I even started this blog — my family.

When I placed my focus on ways to juggle the two, I noticed a sigh of relief on my partner’s face. Even the kids began to notice less tension between us.

It’s been great working from home, but I will admit that it’s no walk in the park. It takes patience to create something from the ground up, and lots of support from those you love. This is why I remind other moms that having a supportive husband inspires you to do great things.

You know what they say, behind every great man is a strong woman. I’d like to say that behind every strong wife is a very supportive partner.

Having a supportive husband teaches me to love what I do, and to appreciate life a little more each day. He understands what it takes to run a business and supports me each step of the way. One of the perks of a supportive husband is sharing ideas together as well as our lives.

Fatima Torres

What's life like with three kids and two pups? It's entertaining, that's for sure! MTME breaks down family fun ideas and shares personal insights from a former B2B editor and digital marketer turned mom running a business and a household -- all under one roof. With her husband as her #1 fan, there isn't anything she can't accomplish. Read on to learn how she breathes in fire and exhales success.

Reader Comments

  1. aws isnt this the sweetest blog? i think this is what every couple should be supporting each other and it is not easy to balance but at the end of the day, we all know what is the right choice

  2. Totally agree that behind every strong woman there is supportive husband. Glad that you take time to focus more on your family. I guess it is priceless! Great Choice!

  3. You both have such a beautiful relationship and it is so incredible to see that kind of support. After three kids it’s even more magical. I agree with you behind a strong women there is a supportive loving husband/or partner.

  4. It’s always great to learn of others relationships that have turned out exactly as it should have. I have been following your blog for some time now and I can appreciate the time and effort you’ve put into it. I’m glad you can focus on it a little less. It’s always time consuming to get something successfully started.

  5. I love that you two can work together and be happy at the same time being each other’s help and true loves. As long as you remain patient with each other through it all, you will always have something that is beautiful and rare.

  6. It’s touching and beautiful to read how you and your husband work as a cohesive team. I could learn from this myself and I’m sure others could, too.

  7. Sometimes work pressure is so much that we neglect our families. But family is the most important thing and we can never be who we are without our family

  8. This is sweet! We all experience down moments but thank God for the solutions that worked out. I wish you and your family all the best!

  9. I can imagine that it can be tough to balance both the blogging/freelancing life and the mom life. I’m glad that you’ve found a balance between the two and have seen an improvement in your relationship with your husband!

  10. That’s beautiful. I love seeing marriages thrive. My husband has been my biggest support as well especially when I started blogging.
    Wish u all the best and more succes and love

  11. I totally agree that having a supportive husband makes all the difference. My husband is my biggest supporter and cheerleader.

  12. It is so vital to have the support of your spouse, especially if you’re starting a business! I’m so glad to have a husband who supports my running 2 blogs, and in turn I do the bookkeeping for his welding business!

  13. Yes, this is so true! I am lucky to have a supportive husband. I try to be supportive as well–my husband is in the military, so there are tons of changes that happen, so I try to always be there for him.

  14. While I wouldn’t want to be in business with my husband (too much togetherness isn’t my thing, lol), certainly having a supportive husband who is a cheerleader for my business, family, and my ideas in general is so important. So happy that you’ve found a real keeper!

  15. I can’t imagine not having my husband behind my back not only in my business, but in every aspect of my life. He’s my biggest cheerleader and the reason I am able to get so much done. I’m glad your husband is a great support system for you too!

  16. Having a supportive husband doesn’t just help your business, it helps everything! When I decided to stay at home when our some was 4, mine was very into the idea! It helped that I didn’t have to fight or justify my decision.

  17. I agree having an supportive partner can help your business grow. It wouldn’t be a good fit for me to start a business with my partner, but he’s very supportive and assists me with a ton of tasks…especially photos lol.

  18. I think having supporters is great too. I don’t think I’d be where I am today if it were not for my husband. He’s very supportive of my blogging business.

  19. Great post! When my business was just an idea, everybody told me I was stupid to invest in it. Everyone except my husband who said “Go for it!” He’s amazing and he supports me every day in so many ways.

  20. I admire your connection and respect you have for your husband. It is so important for each spouse to support each other in their goals and aspirations. When one isn’t supportive, the marriage can begin to feel one-sided and resentment builds. Great post!

    1. Thank you. It wasn’t always easy (as mentioned above), but it helps. I’ve been doing my best to remind myself daily of how I’d feel if the roles were switched. SO important to always place yourself in someone else’s shoes to see how they’d feel.

  21. I feel so many of the same things you do when it comes to having to put my family and husband after my work sometimes. I know what i do benefits my family and so everyone helps out when they can.

  22. My husband is my biggest supporter, as well as advisor. You need that balance, because if he’s only being supportive and just being a yes man, what if he gives his opinion about something, and you ignore him, only to find out he’s right?

  23. This is so true. Thanks for diving in, my husband is pretty much like yours. We have our moments of not being on the same page, but overall he does support me.

  24. Seriously, nothing beats having a supportive partner that helps you grow and become more successful. This couldn’t be more accurate for anyone who’s married and would like to start a business.

  25. It sounds like you have found the perfect balance for your work and personal relationships within your family. It really makes a big difference and I try to remember how lucky I am to have found that within mine as well. Thank you for the reminder, I am going to do something nice for my husband now. Good luck in all you do, it sounds like you are doing great things and will continue to do so.

  26. I could never do what I do without a supportive husband. I used to say when we were young that if anything happened to me that he would be gone. He proved to me how wrong I was when I ended up in the ICU for six weeks. My life changed and I became disabled. He is not only still here but he has never left my side. If I have to stay in the hospital he stays right beside me. I have learned over the 28 years we’ve been together that I can always count on him to have my best interests at heart.

  27. That is so sweet that your husband is so supportive of you! It definitely makes a big difference to know others have your back and are there for you.

  28. I’ve been working from home for several years now. It’s definitely not easy, but having someone supportive in your corner makes it a lot more bearable.

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