How Togetherness Can Heal Your Soul

I’ve shared several times on my blog on how changing my mindset has helped me overcome the pain I experienced in my life.
You’re probably thinking what did I experience in the past to make me the person I am today. Enough. I’ve experienced enough. 
And sometimes, just knowing that you’ve been able to get through certain things in life is enough to show you that you can pretty much get through anything. 
Experience The Love 
My parents have always loved me, but growing up I always searched for it in other people. It wasn’t until I was in my last “teen” years that I realized there was more to life than finding love. Actually, I just reignited the fire with myself. 
If you ever get a chance to step outside on a beautiful day, and just go for a walk, you learn to appreciate the love you have found in nature. 
At 19, I became obsessed with long walks in the park. I took my friends with me on long walks just to see if they would appreciate it as much as I did. 
Some did, others just thought I was some type of hippie. 
I used to love going on walks with my dad. We’d go for lunch after. I loved taking him with me because he also enjoys nature walks. 
Regardless of who would tag along, I learned to just enjoy the time I spent with them. Talk about life, get to know what they were thinking. 
Parks are a great place to just forget about everything for a while. 
Becoming A Hug Monster
I don’t know anyone who doesn’t appreciate a big, tight hug. It says so much about the other person.
Whenever I see someone going through a tough time, I like to give them a really big hug. It puts a smile on their face. I never like to see people feeling down. Sometimes a hug can say more than words could ever explain. 
A hug can really take on its own language. It simplifies having to find the right words to say, and most importantly, it shows the other person how much you genuinely care. 
I love giving hugs, but nothing beats receiving them. Tight hugs from my boys makes everything a lot better. 
On tough days, a hug from our toddler always makes me smile. He understands that just being present is enough to make things better. I hope he never changes and that his baby brother learns this little technique. 🙂 


  1. Ordinary

    Hugging feels so good. I still remember when we had little kids and no time for ourselves, me and my hubby would just hug each other for 2 minutes and all our tiredness, complains and issues just melted away!

    1. Fatima Lora

      I know exactly what you mean. Jeff does the same when I've had a rough day with the kids. Hugging really helps.

  2. Masshole Mommy

    Actually, I don't like to be hugged. I have personal space issues and will always back away from anyone who comes in for a hug – especially someone I don't know.

    1. Fatima Lora

      Really? That's interesting.

  3. Becca

    I definitely appreciate a good hug from a close friend or someone I care about. And I'm quick to hand them out to those close to me, as well.

    1. Fatima Lora

      Aww. That's awesome, Becca. It's always nice to give the love you receive! 🙂

  4. Karen Morse

    You are so adorable as a parent. Love that you are a hug mom. That is so important for humans to get that snuggle…and love…and compassion!
    Karen |

    1. Fatima Lora

      Hi Karen! Thank you. I try to take in all the snuggles I can get because these boys will one day try to avoid kisses from their mom. :/

  5. Terri Steffes

    I love mommy hugs the best, but any hug is a good hug! Great post.

  6. Justine Y @ Little Dove

    Totally agree with you about hugs. Especially my little boy. I always wonder how long he's going to think it's still acceptable to hug his mommy. 🙂

  7. Alicia Snow

    I agree with hugs! It makes me think about those first few weeks of motherhood, when you're so overwhelmed and sleep-exhausted. Just when things seem a little too much, you get that first baby smile and it makes it all worth it.

  8. Michele Katsaris

    I agree with you about the hugging. I come a very affectionate family and I wouldn't want it any other way. It's important to show people you care and hugging is a great way to do just that. Great post xx

  9. ana de jesus

    I love to be hugged. it makes me feel alive and giving people hugs especially friends and family is so lovely.

  10. Kait

    I'm not a mom, but I LOVE that you are a hug mom. My mom is the same way and it's just so endearing 🙂

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