I Self Medicate, You Should Too

If ever there is a time that you needed someone or something to help with whatever you’re going through, I highly recommend self-medication. 

Those who know me might find it shocking since I’ve never told anyone about this. 

For more than 10 years, I’ve been using self-medication to deal with everyday life. 

You’re probably thinking this means I’ve used something that grows from a plant, and is medically acceptable these days. 

What if I told you it’s something completely different from what you’re thinking? 

Let’s clear this out of the way. I’ve never used marijuana. 

It’s never appealed to me, but I don’t get upset when people tell me they smoke pot. It’s their decision. Although most people who use marijuana claim it helps with relaxation, I use other methods to deal with stress. 

By talking to myself, seeing things through someone else’s point of view, I’ve been able to work out most of the problems that have come my way. 

I don’t think a substance — alcohol or any type of drug — can replace that. 

Yes, using a substance can help, but it’s only temporary. 

How My ‘Self-Medication’ Works
I come from a family that has used substances to cope with things. Thankfully, no one has ever abused drugs or alcohol. 

I will admit that there was a time I relied on alcohol for a good time. I was young, and never really went out much. We’ll have to save that for another discussion. 

I’ve always believed in using your mind instead of losing it. Trying to make sense out of things really helps. 

Here are three ways you can try to use my version of self-medication:

1. Talk to yourself.
I know it sounds crazy, but talking out loud can help you clear your mind. Sometimes I replay conversations to help me determine whether or not my words might’ve been taken the wrong way. 

Doing so helps me figure out whether or not I might need to apologize to that person or better clarify my words. 

2. Think about how you can relate. 

You never know what someone is going through until you place yourself in their position. I’ve been able to avoid several arguments with others by thinking about the position their in, and how I’d react. 

3. Make the most out of every situation. 

Sometimes you’re placed in a situation you really didn’t plan for, and that’s okay. 

One thing I’ve learned over the years is that you won’t have control over every situation. Some of the most happiest moments in my life weren’t planned. Heck, becoming a mom was definitely not something I had planned for, yet it’s led to so many amazing opportunities in my life. 

How do you cope with stress?  



  1. Kat

    November 18, 2016 at 6:17 PM

    Lovely post! I take long bubble baths, read, listen to music, listen to podcasts, or just browse Pinterest. I’m totally ocd so looking at photos of organized rooms really relaxes me like magic lol.

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 18, 2016 at 6:18 PM

      I’m the same way. Music really does calm the beast. And yes, an organized room does wonders!

  2. Fatima Torres

    November 19, 2016 at 10:20 AM

    Me too! I’ve always said relaxing is key to staying sane. Thanks for taking the time out to read my post.

  3. chei

    November 20, 2016 at 10:29 AM

    I cope my stress by listening to music, sing, dance, play a guitar and having a good day to my kids. Everybody has its way, Thanks for sharing!

  4. Teresa

    November 20, 2016 at 12:02 PM

    I do the same thing! My mother said I should stop but i dont think i will.

  5. Cynthia Williamston

    November 20, 2016 at 1:04 PM

    To cope with stress I like alone time to reflect on things, time with family and friends that I like, and comfort food. Not to the point of gluttony, but I believe that good balanced home cooked meals assist in full body healing.

  6. aziel morte

    November 21, 2016 at 3:25 AM

    These are great tips for me, Talking to myself was useful and makes me calm

  7. Elizabeth O.

    November 21, 2016 at 8:49 AM

    We can self medicate if we think we are capable of it. I like that you mentioned that drugs and alcohol never saved anyone from whatever it is that they’re going through. It’s not a solution, just a band aid. I usually write, it’s my outlet and it helps me cope with stress.

  8. Azlin Bloor

    November 21, 2016 at 1:03 PM

    I love how you self medicate! Stress is so unavoidable, isn’t it? I work out, do yoga or read when I’m stressed out.

  9. CourtneyLynne

    November 21, 2016 at 10:21 PM

    I’m all about taking a time out when things get hectic and just reflecting on things!

  10. Tami Qualls

    November 21, 2016 at 11:34 PM

    I don’t handle stress very well. I don’t like taking medicine, nor do I think I’d ever use drugs. However, I do need to find some ways to handle my stress better. You’ve given me some direction.

  11. aurora

    November 24, 2016 at 12:58 AM

    Maybe try a bit of yoga too? I know it helps!

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 24, 2016 at 7:41 AM

      I’ve always enjoyed the concept of yoga, but somehow I can’t get into it. Something about clearing my mind that makes it difficult for me to concentrate.

  12. tauyanm

    November 27, 2016 at 12:03 AM

    very helpful post, recently i’ve been stressed with so many things, happy that I have a supportive family, although only myself or your ownself can heal and help yourself. I love to Turn on Dance music while working or soak myself in a warm bath, or go to the gym or window shopping.

  13. christina aliperti

    November 28, 2016 at 1:56 AM

    Talking to myself is a huge stress reliever for me. It helps me to hash things out and look at them logically instead of panicking.

  14. Sarah Bailey

    December 2, 2016 at 2:28 PM

    These are all great tips. I have definitely talked to myself out loud and been able to figure out things more calmly than if I hadnt.

  15. Agnes Dela Cruz

    December 5, 2016 at 8:54 PM

    As a medical practitioner I have knowledge when it comes to medication and and diagnosing illnesses. When it comes to medicating stress, you should learn how to. It’s a way to regain yourself back to the old you.

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