Kindness Shines A Light On Bullying

It has always fascinated me how much you can connect with someone on so many levels. Throughout the years, I’ve met a number of people who’ve experienced a lot of the things I feared discussing with others.

Thankfully, through my blog, I’ve been able to share many of these topics including why I wasn’t a fan of taking ballet classes as a child. Spoiler alert: I ran into a bully. 

Bullies are everywhere. Regardless of age group, gender, or profession, there has always been someone trying to push someone else around. According to a recent Seventeen.com poll, 62% of the participants said they’ve considered transferring schools because of a bully.

Those polled noted that appearance and weight are top of mind for bullies when choosing their victims. Seventeen.com surveyed 716 randomly selected teens and young adults ages 13-24.

But not all hope is lost for future generations, with 90% of the participants who agreed that kindness and 50% who said humor were two of the most valued characteristics of their peers.

How Adults Can Help

Adults play an important role in helping students stop bullying. The results showed that most polled had consulted an adult to try to stop a bully.

It was interesting to find out how there are teens and young adults who aren’t aware of bullying — as in they don’t know what it is. To help them better understand, Seventeen.com has put together a piece showcasing the meaning of bullying and how it’s evolved into cyberbullying. You can find tips on the page as well.

Whenever I think about the possibility of our kids running into a bully or two throughout their lives I remind myself that everything is going to be okay. My husband and I have been prepping our boys daily for them to understand that not everyone is kind, but there are people who are and how they need to be one of them.

Kindness goes a long way, but so does standing your ground. Since becoming a parent, I’ve had to show others the importance of not mistaking kindness for weakness. This is what we try to instill in our boys — the value of being true to yourself and standing by your beliefs.

Do you talk about bullying with your kids? 

20 Comments

  1. momknowsbest15

    November 16, 2017 at 1:29 PM

    I so agree with teach the kids about kindness. Preparing kids for the what ifs is also good.

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 17, 2017 at 2:23 PM

      Yes! Kindness really does go a long way. 🙂

  2. Parenting Healthy

    November 16, 2017 at 7:48 PM

    I often wonder if kids consider bullying incidents actual bullying. We loo at situations as mean and uncalled for but if the other kids don’t seem bothered it might be hard to preach to them. The only way is with kindness

  3. tinahogangrant

    November 16, 2017 at 9:34 PM

    This is an ongoing problem in our schools that needs to be fixed. I remember when I was in school bullying did exist but not on the scale like it is today. I commend you for bring awareness to the issue

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 17, 2017 at 2:22 PM

      I have to agree with you. I remember seeing it, and hearing about it as a child — even going through it — but it wasn’t as bad as it is today.

  4. natalielovesbeauty

    November 16, 2017 at 10:30 PM

    I am so sorry you were bullied growing up. I’ve been made fun of when I was younger – it really affects you on an emotional level. Thanks for sharing your story! x

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 17, 2017 at 2:21 PM

      It really does. Thank you for taking the time to read about it.

  5. Claudia Krusch

    November 16, 2017 at 10:40 PM

    I think it is so important to talk about bullying with your kids. It is so sad that we live in a world where bullying is so rampant.

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 17, 2017 at 2:19 PM

      Yes! I’ve always said the more you educate children, the better they become as adults.

  6. colossalumbrella

    November 17, 2017 at 11:41 AM

    This was great to read! I wish people can understand this and have some sense.

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 17, 2017 at 2:19 PM

      Thank you. It really is good to hear how kindness is impacted the way they view bullying. And that there are people out there who are actually being kind to others.

  7. Akamatra

    November 17, 2017 at 11:54 AM

    I was bullied when I was a child because I was very short and chubby. It still smarts when I think about it!

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 17, 2017 at 2:20 PM

      So sorry to hear. And yes, when we’re bullied as a child/teen, it stays with us for a lifetime.

  8. Marissa Zurfluh

    November 17, 2017 at 2:53 PM

    Dealing with this all the time at my kids school. Luckily my kids are the “kill em with kindness” type.

  9. Leigh Anne Borders

    November 17, 2017 at 8:19 PM

    As a teacher, I talk about this thing often. It is so important to talk to them about it but also be a role model!

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 18, 2017 at 10:29 AM

      That’s awesome! We need more teachers who are willing to make a change. Not just stand there and let it happen.

  10. Kathy

    November 17, 2017 at 11:12 PM

    It is so sad that this is still such a huge issue. I picked our home solely based on the school district and where my kids could stay somewhat sheltered from it. Kindness is something we need to talk about and show our kids daily.

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 18, 2017 at 10:29 AM

      Kindness definitely needs to be discussed with kids. Thanks for sharing!

  11. Melanie

    November 18, 2017 at 2:35 AM

    Eliminating bullying is a group effort. It’s good to know what I can do as a parent to make kindness in greater supply.

    1. Fatima Torres

      November 18, 2017 at 10:28 AM

      It definitely takes a village — and lots of support.

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