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Our Kids Changed Me

Seeing a small faded line on a pregnancy test was all it took to realize there was more to life than a career. My thoughts on moving up the ladder were changed in the fall of 2012. For that summer, I was going to be holding a baby boy in my arms.

Knowing that I was going to be a parent frightened me, but it was an exciting new challenge I was slowly preparing myself to face.

As our first child continued to grow inside of me, I began to feel different types of emotions. Fear was always on my mind, but love was there as well. I learned the importance of creating a loving environment when I knew we were bringing a life into this world.

Soft music, calm settings. Everything was somewhat organized — organized chaos, at least.

Unexpect Everything
This year marks the sixth year since my husband and I went on our first date. I didn’t think it would lead to such a pleasant surprise.

Unmarried, a year out of college and about a year into my career seemed like a recipe for disaster. Fortunately, it wasn’t. Together, Jeff and I were able to overcome some of the obstacles of living together during the first year. Of course, we threw in a pup into the mix before even having our baby boy, but somehow we were able to manage.

It wasn’t until we had our second child that I began to notice more changes in me. Our firstborn taught me what it means to create a loving environment and appreciate the beauty of life.

With our second, I learned the importance of letting go of the people and things that aren’t helping me become the person I want to be. There were many times I had to question whether or not I was surrounding myself with certain people and things because I wanted to make them happy or myself. If having these people/things around was hurting the person I was becoming, then I began to cut them off.

Today, I fight to keep myself away from all of this. It’s been a hard process, but well worth it.

Since having our third, I’ve learned to speak my mind in many ways than one. After finding myself and loving all there is to me without the negativity I had let go, there was more to love about who I am. I’ve learned to embrace it, and for that I am thankful.

They say children teach us more than we could ever imagine, and I have to agree. I probably wouldn’t have become the person I am today had I not had these three loves in my life.

Did your pregnancy impact the way you are today? Let me know in the comments below: 

Former B2B editor and marketer turned Family & Lifestyle blogger. Fatima is passionate about life and being social. When she isn't running around with her husband, three kids, and two pups, Fatima helps other bloggers and local businesses with their online marketing strategy. If you have any questions or would like to connect, feel free to reach out via email: tima@motherhoodthroughmyeyes.com

22 Comments

  • Jana Rose Carrero

    Beautiful and insightful post on life, learning, and motherhood. I don’t have children and am not sure if I ever will, but thank you for sharing your story! It’s cool to see how having children can teach adults a thing or two…

  • Azlin Bloor

    Beautiful post, and I wholeheartedly agree. I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home, and I’ve thrown homeschooling all 4 into that mix too. And who cares about all the naysayers, who needs them? It’s your life, after all, ad your family’s.

  • Backpacking Series

    Thank you for sharing your candid ideas. Yes, its so true that kids can teach us so much. But it can always happen when we are open to learn. Kudos to your spirit to learn something new each time.

  • Times With Kai - Mommy Blog

    Being a parent does change us. I even kind of felt having lost my identity early on after giving birth, but I’m now rediscovering myself. But motherhood did impact a lot – making me feel things I’ve never felt before. It’s a wonderful and scary feeling at the same time.

  • mamabee1981

    I changed completely for the better when my first child came along, I now have three kids who are older and they amaze me and teach me new things every day. I learned some much about myself being pregnant three times and raising kids.

  • toastycritic

    Definitely putting difficult people out of your life is an important change which needs to be made. And I agree that our children change us in amazing ways. My daughter changed me in so many ways I cannot express. But she also revealed parts of me buried beneath the surface.

  • Sigrid Says Blog

    Unexpect things. I like that. Indeed, so many things don’t turn out the way you want them to be. The other night, I changed the sheets. And for the first time in so many years, my daughter had an accident that night. Sigh…

    • Fatima Torres

      Oh, I know that feeling all too well. Our little guy is potty training. Didn’t wet the bet for two weeks. Guess what he did on week 3? It’s not easy, but they sure make it worthwhile.

  • lenajuice

    I always tried to rid of unnecessary people and I don’t want to waste my time on them, and I also afraid of changes in me after I’ll have my kids, but will see, maybe it’s not so scary as I think 😉

  • Daisy Johnson

    Hi FATIMA,
    This is really a insightful article on life, learning, and motherhood.. Yes, its so true that kids can teach us so much. But it can always happen when we are open to learn. Kudos to your spirit to learn something new each time.Your story just made us more excited to become parents.Thanks for the sharing such an insightful article.

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