Lovers Do Not Argue, They Discuss

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In any type of relationship, there are its ups and downs. In moments of conflict, what do you find most effective in dealing with an argument? What is a healthy way to fight about a disagreement and a not-so-healthy way? In your experience, what have you learned about addressing conflict in any of your relationships?

I really do not like to argue. In fact, I actually consider arguments to be discussions because I like to talk about things rather than scream or yell. I do not think screaming or yelling will ever solve a problem, unless of course your intentions are to annoy the other person.

Jeff and I talk about our issues. There are moments we need our space and we understand that giving each other time to cool off is critical. I have a habit of closing myself in whenever something really bothers me. Sometimes I need to talk to myself before I voice out my emotions. (Is that weird? Does anyone else do this?)

I have been working on not bottling things up inside, and it has been a blessing for the both of us.

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  1. Life Breath Present

    We strive to discuss in our family as well. I'm much more of a 'talker' and 'communicator' than Hun is, though we will hash things out when we need to, even if that requires a bit of 'time off' from talking.

    I understand completely the talk it over with myself thing. Sometimes I need to do that. Sometimes I need to talk it through with Hun (or some other very trusted person) before I am fully aware of all my emotions and desires involved. Often though, little things come out here and there that eventually are pieced together to fully form my thoughts/plans/action need/ideas 🙂

  2. Thank you for your feedback. I'm happy to hear that I'm not the only one who needs to consult an expert. 🙂

  3. Beautiful post, Fatima! Shared.

  4. Arguing isn't fun. That's why I try to avoid it I have to. When an issue does need to be solved, it's best to discuss it calmly with no yelling.

  5. Thanks for your feedback, Julie. Yes, I think talking about the problem(s) is a better alternative to screaming.

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