Jan 212019
Why I Don’t Need Marie Kondo Or The KonMari Method In My Life

Organizing guru Marie Kondo has caused quite a stir in the self-improvement industry. I get why many have decided to learn more about her methods. A mess can cause stress, it can also make you feel as though your life isn’t in order.

This is something I’ve learned throughout the years. However, I will admit that sometimes a mess just means you have other things in your life isn’t in order.

Finding what works for you and your lifestyle is the best way to approach your home organization goals.

The Marie Kondo method is making noise among the home decor community as well.

Contrary to what other moms have said, I don’t believe I need someone coming into my home and telling me what to throw out. How many things I need to keep in my home.

Trust me, I’ll get around to decluttering the garage, but I won’t hold an object to see if it brings joy to my life.

Honestly, it’s not the things in my life that count towards my happiness, it’s the people.

Embracing The Madness

On most days, I have to sit back and accept that my home won’t be tidy all day. If I don’t do accept it, I’ll drive myself and my family insane.

With three kids and two dogs, it’s almost impossible to maintain a clean home. I will admit that tidying up can spark joy, but I love the feeling of actually spending time with my family. The mess can wait.

LEGO pieces can be found throughout our home. Things may not always be where they should, but it’s a happy home. When people enter, they feel relaxed — unless they don’t like kids or fear dogs.

Method To The KonMari Madness

Maybe the guru doesn’t want me to get rid of my book collection or sit there and hold items while pondering whether or not they spark joy. I will admit that there is some truth to decluttering your home and how much it allows you to improve your way of thinking. For instance, you learn to solve problems and make decisions as you start tossing items into separate piles: keep, toss or donate.

I haven’t read Marie Kondo’s book, nor have I watched an episode of the new hit series on Netflix. I love to hear how her teachings have allowed others to find happiness in their home, but I don’t think it can help me.

That’s not to say that I know all that about tidying up. Of course not. Pinterest doesn’t have all the answers.

I’m at a point in my life where I know what I need to know about trying to balance a household. I’m constantly tweaking it to fit whatever comes our way — like adding more time to practice lessons with our kids throughout the week.

To those of you who feel they need her words of encouragement to finally tackle the things in your home, I applaud you for taking the steps to improve your life.

For me, her words aren’t something I feel could help me since I’ve been improving my everyday life for years. I think if you need help, then go and read her book and follow her along on social media. It might come in handy.

Marie Kondo has great tips for those looking to improve their living space at home.

Have you been following Marie Kondo?
Tell me your thoughts in a comment below!

Fatima Torres

What's life like with three kids and two pups? It's entertaining, that's for sure! MTME breaks down family fun ideas and shares personal insights from a former B2B editor and digital marketer turned mom running a business and a household -- all under one roof. With her husband as her #1 fan, there isn't anything she can't accomplish. Read on to learn how she breathes in fire and exhales success.


Reader Comments

  1. Truthfully, I think a lot of the Maria Kondo hype is silly. I do believe in being organized and my master bedroom closet needs a good cleaning out. I won’t be running my hand over each item or talking to my clothing when I get around to cleaning it out . . . again.

  2. Yeah, I am good, too! I have no intention of watching her show because I love the mess. It just shows that I live in a house full of love and don’t have time to worry about the small stuff like folding my clothes a certain way.

  3. yes i love this my friend- shes so amazing and i love putting everything out that does not bring me joy! i havent read the book but i might now ha

  4. I had read her book when it first came out. Although I do try and organize I think that her method isn’t necessarily for everyone.

  5. I have been following Marie Kondo, for about three years! What I have found (for me) is that I carefully consider what is coming into my home. Having less things means less stress. I look for items that serve multiple purposes and that add beauty to my space.

  6. I just started her method in my home; I just finished with my clothes. I can already tell you that I will not follow her method exactly but I will use it as a starting off point because this house needs a good shaking up. With 6 people, a dog, and a cat in a 4 bedroom house, we have A LOT of stuff we don’t even know we have!

  7. I’ve been following the Marie Kondo craze, and I have to admit, it’s tempting. The thing is, I have so many things in my life that mean so much to me, I’d rather just do my best to keep it all organized.

  8. It’s not for me or I feel realistic. I have downsized so I am a little more careful about what I buy, but I can’t honestly say everything brings me joy. My Cuddle Duds and gloves just remind me of cold weather (like now) and that doesn’t bring me joy.

  9. I have Never even heard of this lady until last week. I do need to study her up and see if what she teaches is something I would like. I am very good at decluttering but there are things that I do keep. I have no idea if that is what she suggests or not. I like the way you look at it because you know what works for you and that’s all that matters.

  10. I a totslly with you there 🙂 I’ve been reading a lot about the book, and while I’ sure it could help a lot of people, I know it’s not for me. I embrace the chaos, the mess and the life because I know in 5 years my kids won’t play with toys anymore, and things will be so different. Just trying to enjoy this time now 🙂

  11. Yes to all of this! The internet seems to have gone a little crazy over here of late and I just don’t see the obsession! I prefer to fold my clothes for a start, it all seems so time consuming!

  12. I’ve read Marie Kondo book before. I haven’t seen the show yet. I take a lot of what she says in consideration with my organization style.

  13. I actually read her book and watched the show and I love the concept of getting rid of things you don’t need. It’s really caused me to stop shopping, just to shop, and focus on things we need vs. things we want.

  14. Woah. Fancy coming across your site and about this topic. I just watch a show of Marie Kondo on Netflix last week. I think that her methods work but it wouldn’t be for everyone.

  15. I not been following Marie Kondo. Never seen the show nor read the book. But I have always been an organized person. I don’t like clutter or messy surroundings at all.

  16. I haven’t been following the Marie Kindo trend, but she seems to really be helping a lot of people. I’m glad that people are finding ways to stress less and get control over their belongings if that is what they want.

    1. Hey, Pam! I know what you mean. It really has made changes to the lives of so many. But all I’m saying is that it’s not for me. Some moms have gotten upset with me because I said I don’t need it. I just don’t understand why I MUST follow it, in their opinion.

  17. This is the first time i heard about konmari madness. I do believe everyone is entitled on their own lives. We dont have to let people tell us what to do. We are all grown up adult and know what is good and bad for ourselves.

  18. I only saw one episode of Marie Kindo. In my opinion I think the movement towards simplifying and de-cluttering is fantastic. I do think we are a society of excess and it affects not just the way we live but the way we affect our environment. Before the craze I had already been simplifying my home 3x a year and I guess it does work for me and my family.

  19. I think Marie Kondo isnt doing much more than inspiring others to let go and embrace their home more. I have watched a few episodes but it did teach and remind me that I need to let go most of my clothes I have now because I am not wearing them – but I was going to do that before I saw the Netflix series.

  20. I haven’t read the book either but I tried watching the first episode and 10 minutes in I was bored out of my mind with the show. I love organisational shows and generally cleaning though.

  21. I read the book and watched the show. She doesn’t tell people how many books to keep, or what they need to get rid of. I have 5 kids and 3 dogs, my house is never going to be spotless, but I’m much happier with less clutter. If you’re the sentimental type like I am, it makes it easier to donate things if you spend a few seconds reflecting on the joy something brought, instead of mindlessly tossing things. I think she really helps her clients, but it is because they are looking for more peace and order in their homes.

  22. They say less is more but sometimes it doesn’t work. It’s too minimalistic. Sometimes you need your “creative mess” to function normally.

  23. lol my boyfriend tried watching this show but couldn’t really get into it hahaha. i don’t watch tv much personally but if my bf isn’t into it i cant really imagine i would be! lol i try to just keep tidy on my own terms and it’s been working out just fine 😉

  24. I’m in the same boat. I read her book a long time ago and it inspired me to declutter. But I already have a decluttering personality and I hate having clutter lying around. So naturally my room is clean and neat like a freak.

  25. I haven’t watched it and I don’t plan too. I like my stuff and I’ve worked hard to purchase what we have and buy the things that bring me joy and I love books so there is no way my big old book collection is going anywhere!

  26. I don’t know she is, but I like your style! We all have different lives (thankfully), so what works for some, won’t work for all of us. Sometimes these ‘gurus’ make it feel like we are getting life wrong if we don’t follow their ways.

  27. I have never heard of her or the fad. I am working on de-cluttering my house. Although being a prepper, that is a bit difficult. But I’ve come to the point where I am far more organized. So it’s one of those things where I say do what works best for you. I just cleaned out my spare bedroom to turn into an office. Next is my bedroom closet. I have cleaned it out once and donated a bunch of stuff. But I’ve found I have a small addiction to Grunt Style shirts, and I need more room for all of them. So I’m going to do it again.

  28. I go back and forth on the whole minimalism thing. One one hand, I realize I’m always trying to find new things to buy to make my life more convenient, and I know that can turn into an ugly monster if not checked. On the OTHER hand, I’m not hording things, I put everything to use. I appreciate that Marie Kindo can help people unclutter their lives, but I wouldn’t call what we got going on clutter. At least not YET. 😉

    1. Ha, Johnny! I know the feeling. My mother’s home is a hoarding zone. For her, it’s not about reading a book and following a method. It’s getting the unnecessary things OUT OF THE HOUSE. There are things from my childhood still in her closet.

  29. I find the Marie Kindo method somewhat inspiring, but I can see how it is definitely not for everyone. It’s important to know what works for you personally and focus on what makes sense and organizing your own home. I need a little structure so a method helps get me started.

  30. I’d love to clean out my spare room, but I don’t think this method would work for me either. I do much better with walking in and working for 15 minutes at a time and then walking out.

  31. I also embrace the madness in my home; there aren’t enough minutes in the day and I rather spend my time and energy on my passions. That said, I also moved abroad a few years ago and that was a great way to reduce the extra crap in my life and let go of “things” to some extent.

  32. I resisted Marie Kondo at first because I thought it sounded way too out there. However, I did eventually watch an episode just out of curiosity. I actually found the show entertaining and it motivated me to clean. It also provided some helpful organization tips that I’ve put to work. I did not adopt the need to thank my house or thank my items that I’m discarding. While I didn’t fully consider whether each item sparks joy in the way I think Marie intended, I did go with my instinct on whether or not an item made me happy or was really necessary when I was deciding what to keep and what to get rid of.

    1. Ha, I like how you pointed out the whole “thank your home”. I mean, it’s a nice thing to think of, but I don’t foresee it being something that’s necessary. Putting value one things? No, thank you.

  33. I haven’t been following her at all, but I feel like her name is everywhere. I may need to check her out just so I know who everyone is talking about. I’m like you and realize that it’s impossible to keep things tidy 100% of the time. That’s just life!

  34. Yesssss, thank you. I have two under three, and two dogs in the house. I’m not a hoarder or anything, but I’ve come to a point where I realize if I tidy up, the house is a Trainwreck again in about 5 minutes. Kids will be kids, and dogs will be dogs. If there’s trash or a spill, I’m on it. But until the babes are a little older, the clutter can get comfy.

  35. I haven’t been following her, but I’ve heard enough to know that if I do, it’ll just make me feel ashamed of the things she’d want me to get rid of. There’s no need for that in my life. I’m not perfect, and you’re right, it’s about balance and finding what works for your family.

  36. This is a well-thought out post and I applaud you for sharing it. I personally read her book and took some great tips from it but certainly can’t embrace it as a whole. Only keep 30 books? I’m a book blogger and a cookbook lover and that just ain’t happening. I think I own about 30 cookbooks alone. And yes – they bring me joy!

  37. Oh I think she’s darling! Her process is quite simple and I just love how non-judgmental she is— and that she does not tell people what to keep or get rid of. She really gives people ownership or the whole process.

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