May 062019
One Simple Secret To Turning Mom Fails Into Mom Wins

From sleepless nights to hectic mornings, there’s something to be said about a mom who is determined to succeed.

Most of what being a blogger/influencer means is engaging with other parents and discussing your everyday struggles. Whether it’s on a blog post or in a social post, it’s always interesting to see how others tackle things that come their way.

As a parent, you’re constantly trying to do what’s best for you and your family. A lot of the times the two won’t coincide. There are days when everything will go according to plan, and then there are others that make you question your sanity.

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Regardless, there’s something about the moments that remind you of why you continue to work through the madness.

If you’ve been following us on Instagram, then you know of a recent mom fail I had experienced with our five-year-old son.

Focus On The Juggling Act

Hearing that our son needed extra attention at school was tough for me. It reminded me of the reason I started working from home — to be with our kids.

On most days, working from home is a blessing. However, there are moments I feel as though I need a breather from it all. Oftentimes I would tell myself I need to find a balance. Such a funny word for something that actually feels like a juggling act.

That word — balance — made me question what it meant to run a household and a business from home.

That’s when it hit me. I needed to let go of the idea that everything on my plate was a balancing act because it isn’t.

When you balance things you have two endpoints that you need to evenly distribute the weight. In life, we don’t get to experience that balance.

On most days, we’re being pulled from one direction to the next. We don’t get the luxury of not tipping the scale. The truth is, something will require your attention today, and another will require your attention the next.

That’s how the juggling act works. No matter what is thrown your way, you keep calm and continue on.

Is there really a balance, or is it a juggling act? When I changed my mindset and focused more on the juggling act that comes with “doing it all”, I realized things started to fall into place.

Instead of being reactive, I became proactive. Juggling things simultaneously instead of trying to find that happy-medium was what I need to understand before I could better plan my day.

Let’s face it, things will come up. Sick days happen, deadlines get switched. If you’re trying to balance everything, then you’ll notice the scale will begin to slowly tip over.

With time, you learn that crying doesn’t help and neither does complaining. The thing that does help is revamping your strategy and making time for the essentials.

I remember reading about Randi Zuckerberg’s Pick Three strategy, and it’s what I tell myself whenever I feel overwhelmed with everyday life. I choose three things I want to focus on for the week. Currently, it’s family, self-care. and work. I do my best to juggle between those three things.

Have you had any mom fails lately? Tell us in a comment below!

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Fatima Torres

What's life like with three kids and two pups? It's entertaining, that's for sure! MTME breaks down family fun ideas and shares personal insights from a former B2B editor and digital marketer turned mom running a business and a household -- all under one roof. With her husband as her #1 fan, there isn't anything she can't accomplish. Read on to learn how she breathes in fire and exhales success.

Reader Comments

    1. Im not a mom yet so I don’t have so much idea, for me I think mother’s shouldn’t just think to much with the fails but just focus on being better and productive every day.

  1. I don’t really see anything I do as a mother as a fail. I find the things I do to be learning experiences. I have no idea what I am doing – hahaha! So I really just go with the flow and if something doesn’t work out, well, I know better for next time! 😉

  2. My kids are all grown now but I had plenty of mom fails back in the day. We can’t be too hard on ourselves because the successes always seem to outweigh the fails.

  3. Yes totally agree with this – I make mistakes daily and yet my kids will give me a huge hug and say I love you. We’re all doing our best 🙂

  4. Oh yeah, I’ve had tons of mom fails. I look at them all as lessons. I do my best at the end of the day and try not to stress. Parenting is tough! No one is perfect.

    1. Very true and yes sometimes I make mistakes and I just look at it as a normal cause am human and it just has to happen but I learn from it and move on.

  5. I shall have to share this with some friends, I am sure at times it can be hard feeling you are going through Mum fails, but you can learn and turn them into wins for sure.

  6. I am not a mom, but I do feel that I fails some days. And I think that is normal, as life can sometimes overwhelm us. It’s important to see beyond it though and move forward, always move forward. Solutions will come.

  7. Mindset is everything! You can’t control everything but you can control how you think about it. That is most important to remember if you’re a mom.

  8. I like how you narrow down to working on 3 things per week. I think that’s definitely a manageable plan for most of us to try without failing.

  9. I really enjoyed reading this post. I love your perceptive on this. Having the right mindset is so important.

  10. I love the idea of pick three. And it all goes so fast, I can remember when my girls were little, now they are adults, and I still get burned out.

  11. Great advise! It’s important to learn from our failures and mistakes. I agree that on most days, working from home is a blessing. However, there are moments when we need a breather from it all.

  12. Our mindset can control so much about our lives! I don’t have any kids but I see how easy it is for my mom friends to fall victim to the mom guilt that comes along with those “fails”!

  13. I can certainly relate to this too. I know I feel like I have some of these mom fails sometimes. I just try my best to balance it all out the best I can.

  14. You are so right! I am not a mom yet, but I can’t find my balance in everything. I need to change my perspective.

  15. Sounds awesome! I will do my best to remember your advise when I become a mom (which I hope will happen soon)

  16. I am not a mom yet so have no idea how I would react or tackle this kind of situation. My sister who is a mom to a cute girl, she often blames herself for any mistake and complains about life balancing struggle and all. I must share this post with her ☺

  17. Pick Three sounds like a great strategy. Being a human is hard. We are all going to make mistakes, and hopefully survive them and become wiser!

  18. You definitely have to choose your battles, prioritize and enjoy some down time. Moms can’t do everything but they can do what’s most important.

  19. I’ve learned that in my most stressful mommy moments, it’s best to step back and breathe. Even counting down from ten will sometimes give me the space to turn a stressful moment around. We are so hard on ourselves as moms and we need to give ourselves permission to check out sometimes.

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