I have always cared for others more than I have cared about myself, but motherhood really brought out a different side of me.
There have been several changes in my life since the day I found out I was going to be a mom. I have been preparing myself mentally, physically and emotionally since day one, but regardless of how many times I have told myself “I got this,” I have flipped my lid.
Sometimes when you do too much for someone, they slowly start taking advantage of it. And that is when you have to put your foot down and say something. So, technically I grew balls. I discussed an incident I had with a family friend over here, and how good it felt to put this person in their place. I know I will have to see them again on another holiday, but when that happens, they will know better 😉
My Son Prepped Me
Even before the birth of my son, I knew I wanted to teach my child the importance of teamwork. I shared more on this topic in my post on baby chores. You can read all about it here.
So, how exactly did my son prep me, you ask?
I went from caring too much to not giving a penny — for the lack of a better word — about what others had to say about pretty much anything and everything. Sebastian has taught me that true happiness is finding a happy-medium in everything you do. And that is what I intend to do for the rest of my life.
When I wake up in the morning and I get to see his smile, or catch him do something he has never done before, I get weak. And that is the only time I let my guard down these days.
To some people, it might seem as though I have changed, and they might be right. I stopped faking the smile, and let go of everyone and everything that was toxic. Okay, I have not officially given up on candy, but it has been almost a month since my last piece. Wait, does chocolate count? Oh well!
But honestly, once I started putting my foot down, it was like I parted the sea to make way. And at the end of the path was another person — a happier me — just waiting for my present self to join her.
I hope everyone gets to find their happy place. It is so much more beautiful on this side.