Mar 222018
How I Went From SAHM To WAHM

Finding out you’re about to be a parent can scary, more so when it wasn’t expected. You can read more about my journey into motherhood on my About page and in this post.

It wasn’t until my husband and I decided it would be best to move to South Florida and raise our family in the Sunshine State that it really hit me. I was going to leave behind everything I knew since birth. Family, friends, and the start of my career as an editor and marketer.

I had been working for a digital B2B publishing company for almost three years before heading down to Florida. It was a great place to grow and learn from those before me.

Transitioning To A SAHM

Although the move left me unemployed, I was determined to make something out of this new life. With the title of a stay-at-home mom (SAHM) framed across my forehead, I wanted more. In fact, I needed more.

My husband continued his career in finance and has been able to strive in South Florida. Great, right? My husband has always been supportive of all my decision, but I couldn’t say the same about myself.

During the first six months since our move, we bumped heads a lot. I cried often and didn’t like my new role. I felt stuck. Wouldn’t you?

After working for years and being independent, I was now a SAHM. I felt like I was dumped into another part of the world and forced to figure things out. The truth is, that’s how it feels like when you’re a first-time parent. You’re given a new role and you feel the need to excel in it.

Much of my frustrations came from not knowing what to do with a six-month-old in a new place. I joined a lot of local mom groups and went to events to socialize our firstborn — and myself.

I had started Motherhood Through My Eyes before moving to South Florida and had a good following — mainly family and long-time friends — but it wasn’t until we made the move that I began to heavily focus on turning it into a hobby that would pay off (literally).

Making A Career Out Of Motherhood
Becoming a SAHM was a blessing in disguise. I just didn’t see it at first, but that feeling of being stuck was mental. I had a new place to explore and a little one who was learning about the world. I challenged my emotions by transitioning them into the feeling of curiosity. We could take on the world together, and that’s what we did. We took on the blogosphere. I researched ideas whenever our little guy was busy napping, coloring, or playing with his toys.

At first, we received a lot of hosted opportunities — non-paid opportunities for our family to enjoy free of charge. We attended local events and visited museums.

The funny thing about being a SAHM is that you never really stay home. You’re always out and about doing something.

The more I asked questions, the more I learned. I combed through blog posts on ways to generate an income as a blogger. After months of research and two years of trial and error, I began freelancing for other bloggers, helping them with their campaigns as well as my own. I didn’t get as many campaigns at first, so it was nice to make extra income from helping others achieve their goals.

Today, I continue to use my blog as a business and have expanded helping businesses, as well as local bloggers, reach their target audience. Although I have a tough time considering what I do as “work”, most people would consider me a work-at-home mom (WAHM). It’s exciting to know that I can do what I’ve always loved — writing and developing marketing strategies — while hanging with my family all day.

Do you know someone who is a SAHM and needs a little inspiration to follow their dreams? Share this post with them!

Fatima Torres

What's life like with three kids and two pups? It's entertaining, that's for sure! MTME breaks down family fun ideas and shares personal insights from a former B2B editor and digital marketer turned mom running a business and a household -- all under one roof. With her husband as her #1 fan, there isn't anything she can't accomplish. Read on to learn how she breathes in fire and exhales success.

Reader Comments

  1. It definitely can be a difficult transition. It’s all about learning when the best times to work on your blog and when not too. Time management is the big key to making it successful.

    1. Yes! I have to agree with you, Julie. Time is what helps you become successful, and investing the right amount of time on the necessary things is what will help push you through the rough days.

  2. Good luck with the transition. I’m sure you’ll do great. I’m a SAHM, but I write and will get paid for that, so I guess I’m sort of a WAHM. I love being available for my kids at all times. My son has autism, so sometimes he needs me.

  3. What a lovely post. I have been a working mom and a stay at home mom and a work from home mom and t hey all have their pros and cons. All are challenging in different ways. I’m so happy you do what works for you.

  4. I’m glad you made it. I sometimes feel like you, like stuck and that I’m not making all I could do. I can’t imagine how it would be to become a parent. I think I like my freedom a bit to much. I do hope I will be able to start my own business.

  5. I live alone so it was easy for me to become a WAHM. I can imagine it has a lot more difficulties when having to spread out time between kids, home, and working. Doing what you love makes it all worthwhile.

  6. I love how you put you took on the world together! That is beautiful. A mother is a superhero in itself but the fact you are able to think outside the box and create something for both yourselves is absolutely inspirational! Kudos to you and your little one!

  7. I can totally relate to this post. I had a career in healthcare before we relocated to Florida 5 years ago and I decided to give homeschooling a try and stay home with my kids. The adjustment has had it’s challenges but it has been a real blessing too.

  8. Wow what amazing advice I think moms and non moms can appreciate. It really goes to show there are endless possibilities to accomplish whatever dreams we want.

  9. I couldn’t agree with you more when you say that SAHM doesn’t mean that we are at home all the time. It’s literally juggling from one thing to another.

  10. March 27, 2018 at 10:36 PM
    I agree with you and I also think that this is great advice for any mother or anyone who wants to learn how to work from home.You have planted the seed and in time you will see more success.

  11. It can definitely be a tough transition to go from working to staying at home with a little one. I am glad that you have found something where you can have the best of both!

  12. While I am not a mom, I can say that working from home is a true blessing. How great you are growing your business by helping other bloggers at the same time!

  13. As a kid, I was always thinking in my head; “How could you just stay at home, couldn’t it be boring dong chores all day?” Now I know that’s not all it is. Thanks for sharing.

  14. I love this post. I work full time – frankly far more than full time and I have missed so much of my children’s lives. I then am also a blogger – PT but with another set of almost full time hours. I know full well if I quit my job today I could make it work – the only reason I don’t make more now is lack of actual hours to be able to do so. But making that leap is so scary. I have special needs kids that rely on both of our incomes as well as disabled inlaws that live with us. Not complaining – I love a multigenerational household. But wish I had the guts to make that leap and enough faith that it would work out.

  15. I can totally relate with you. i moved here in South Korea after marriage and is working from home right now. I don’t have kids yet so I get the stigma that I am not working at all because I stay at home. I make a little money but most people in my area do not really understand working from home.

  16. I struggled with this too. Going from an independent woman with my own place and my own money to a married woman sharing a home to a stay at home mom dependent on someone else is so difficult. For a long time I didn’t spend any money on myself even if I needed new clothes, new shoes, etc. which is also why I started blogging and started my Etsy shop. I want to try and grow that so I can have my own income again and still be a stay at home mom.

    1. I didn’t even know you were working on an Etsy shop. Send me your link, I’ll be happy to check it out. It really is a tough transition. You feel like you lose yourself, but in reality, you find yourself in new ways. Look at you, two kids and you’re always keeping yourself busy. 🙂

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