May 152019
MomViews: Shattering The Supermom Myth

For months I’ve been struggling with the idea of not feeling enough and wanting to do more. It wasn’t until I started focusing on the juggling act method that I began to notice a difference in my everyday life.

I went from wanting more to feeling content with less. That’s when it hit me.

I was letting go of that supermom complex I had, and I was making room for others in my life.

Leaning On Others

For years, I struggled with the idea of depending on my husband. One of the reasons why I turned Motherhood Through My Eyes into a business was to take off some of the financial weight on husband’s shoulders.

Life can be stressful at times, and it may feel as though you’ve got everything under control. There are instances when you feel defeated, and that’s. It just means you’re being human.

Together, we’ve been able to accomplish more. Through the years, I’ve learned to lean on him whenever I’ve felt overwhelmed. We always joke about how well we work together — and we really do.

Understanding The Value Of Mom Friends

My husband isn’t the only one I’ve let into my support system. There are other moms with similar goals who’ve been an inspiration for me since starting my blog.

It’s amazing to look back at how we’ve all been able to help one another, and watch each other grow.

I met another mom recently who has helped me kickstart a lot of the things I had written on a list. We inspire each other to go after our goals.

This mom and I met during a time in my life when I thought I’d be helping her, when in fact, I’ve been helping myself as well.

It’s funny how things work.

Better Together

Finding a mom friend is like dating again. You practically go on several play dates before you can find one mom who won’t judge you because your car is a mess, or will watch you struggling with your child and leave you to fend for yourself (yes, there are moms like that).

Meeting someone who understands that I can’t attend every mommy-and-me play date or answer phone calls during the day, is always a bonus.

When you work on helping others, everything starts to fall into place. It’s nice to encounter other moms who understand the value of teamwork.

Here’s to having a strong support system — because we can always use a friend in this mom life.

Fatima Torres

What's life like with three kids and two pups? It's entertaining, that's for sure! MTME breaks down family fun ideas and shares personal insights from a former B2B editor and digital marketer turned mom running a business and a household -- all under one roof. With her husband as her #1 fan, there isn't anything she can't accomplish. Read on to learn how she breathes in fire and exhales success.

Reader Comments

  1. It’s so much better to do life with other mom friends. I’ve had lifelong friends that I went to elementary school with and the connection makes me a better mom and person.

  2. I have a few friends I have kept since I was a kid. I have a couple of friends that I’ve met his mom and some of them are easier to keep than others! I think we all think we need to be super moms. All we need to do is our best.

  3. That is so great that you are able to help support your family with your blog! Sounds like you have a great circle of friends in your life.

  4. I never was on board with being supermom. I find perfection is boring, so I’m all about having fun and doing the best you can. If it’s not perfect, ah well. I have some mom friends, but I’m an introvert so I’m fine being at home with a book.

  5. I agree woman can be very judgements so when meeting new people not judging them is important. Also having a connection with other moms is great.

  6. I don’t remember this being a thing when I was a young mom. I don’t know why we are putting so much pressure on young moms.

  7. Mom friends are the best. It’s so nice to have a support system. Especially, with other moms.

  8. Making mom friends is so hard. I think making friends as an adult is hard in general, but adding kids into the mix…

  9. I’m not a mom, but I’m glad to see you’ve shattered the SuperMom myth. There is such much emphasis put on being perfect when perfection doesn’t exist. We’re all human and it’s okay to ask for help and lean on others.

  10. awesome advise! I know a lot of mom are struggling with lack of company! Having it with other moms is a great idea. Bonus for future friends for your kids.

  11. Having a support system like a friend mom is priceless! When my kids were younger, I was working and really didn’t socialize much with other mom’s. It would have been nice to have a confidant.

  12. Life is better with friends but as a mother, it’s even more important I think. I was lost before I found my support sisters, my mom is not with us anymore so it’s hard. Having mom friends has made my life easier!

  13. A support system is important for every mom. I am not a mom yet but I take care of my niece, I know it’s really not easy.

  14. Now this makes me miss my mom friends aka girlfriends. The last time I saw them was when I went home last summer. We do keep in touch through social media.

  15. I think this is what I struggle with as well! The “supermom” does not exist and people that think that they do have been brainwashed.

  16. I really enjoy reading your article its very realistic. Most of my friends are my friends since my childhood days and I am happy that we are all mothers now and I am glad that we are still there for each other through ups and downs.

  17. I loved this post! I went to so many mommy and me classes and play dates trying to find a Mom Tribe.. nothing fit, I never clicked with none of them. Then I decided to do other things, focus on my goals and finally found what I needed.

  18. There is no such thing as a perfect mom. We all mistakes and people who try and come off that way lack authenticity. This is an important message and reminder especially in this digital age.

  19. When my kids were small, I joined a playgroup and made some wonderful friends! It was really great to know people in similar situations who could relate to a lot of what I was going through. We moved and I couldn’t find another group like that, but I wish I had!

  20. Being a mom is so demanding! It really helps when you have a good support system. We don’t have family near us, and I find that it is hard when you don’t have a backup like that.

  21. It’s so easy to do. We live in a Pinterest world where moms think they have to be Supermom. It’s hard to break free from that sometimes. Thank you for sharing!

  22. It is important to have someone who understands exactly what you spend every day as a mom, a person who understands your emotions to help each other. Have a mothers support group.

  23. I know how much I’ve missed not having a network of moms aroudn me. Being an expat, socialising with other moms can be very difficult, especially in the pre-school years! I

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