That's What (True) Friends Are For!

Time has a funny way of showing you who and what really matters in your life. And for that, I’m very thankful. 

When I met the godmother of our two boys, I never imagined she’d be in our lives this long.

It was the summer before high school and we were both assigned to a pre-algebra course. We worked hard that summer, and really got to know each other.

It was great. 

And after years of friendship, I never once questioned whether or not I made the right choice in making her the godmother of our boys.

If you ever find someone who can really understand you at your worst, and cheer you on at your best, then you have a true friend. 


I’ve never considered her a best friend because she’s family. She knows all the drama in my family and I know hers — well, the ones she’s okay with sharing. But even that is okay with us. 

We understand that everyone needs their own privacy, and if need be, we’ll discuss it.

Find Yourself A Meli
No one likes to be compared to others, but honestly, I hope you find yourself a Meli.
The thing about the godmother of my boys is that she’s always been a true friend.

For me, a true friend is someone who:

– doesn’t judge you because you’ve “messed up”.
– accepts you for who you are and the things you love.
– knows there’s more to the story when you’re being brief, yet doesn’t beat it out of you.
– tells you the truth even when you don’t want to hear it.
– makes you see all sides to every story.
– doesn’t care if you haven’t called in a while.
– will put someone in their place for you if they talk bad about you.
– won’t entertain drama if it’s unnecessary.
– will tell you to decide what’s right for you instead of everyone else.

And most importantly, they’re the same wonderful person with everyone else.

That’s what friends are for — at least in my eyes.
How do you define true friendship?

20 Comments

  1. Masshole Mommy

    March 22, 2016 at 2:19 PM

    I wish I had a friend like that. I am so bad at maintaining friendships and have lost so many people from my life over the years.

  2. Tara Settembre

    March 22, 2016 at 5:13 PM

    "doesn't care if you haven't called in a while." agree and with a true friend you can pick things up like no time as passed 🙂

  3. Charlotte TheMummyToolbox

    March 22, 2016 at 5:48 PM

    I completely agree, The friends I have kept in touch with the most are the ones who live their lives and let me live mine and then when we meet up it's like nothings changed. I know they are there for me no matter what and I hope they know I am there for them.

  4. Dollhouse Goddesses

    March 22, 2016 at 6:14 PM

    I love this, so heartwarming! We are all about lasting friendships at OUDH!

  5. meyer137

    March 22, 2016 at 6:24 PM

    Friends are those who are there when you need them. We dont always have time to be with someone as often as we should in the craziness that is life, but friends are always there!
    http://www.spaghettiandmashedpotatoes.com/

  6. Skye McLain

    March 22, 2016 at 8:33 PM

    My best friend like this lives in Germany but it is so nice because when we do get together – it is like we have never missed a beat!

  7. Kait

    March 22, 2016 at 9:28 PM

    I LOVE that list at the end. True friends seem like they are harder and harder to come by these days (what's up with that?!), so I especially love that your friend has been in your life so long.

  8. Beeb Ashcroft

    March 22, 2016 at 10:07 PM

    Having a friend who is willing to tell you to straighten up as well as tell somebody to back off you is priceless. The person who listens for hours to the same thing and still acts like it's new news. I love friends like that and I love being one in return.

  9. ana de jesus

    March 23, 2016 at 1:08 AM

    I think you know when you have made a friend for life and if you have that gut instinctthen go for it. So lovely to hear how you guys became friends.

  10. Housewife Eclectic

    March 23, 2016 at 2:01 AM

    I love friends like this. Friends that are so amazing, they are family. I have a couple of those.

  11. Author TP Keane

    March 23, 2016 at 11:13 AM

    I love catching up with old friends. I live very far away from where I grew up, so it's extra special.

  12. Nikka Shae

    March 23, 2016 at 11:42 AM

    Friendship, someone who encourages you and lifts you up. Distance has no boundaries for friendship!!

  13. Becca

    March 23, 2016 at 6:07 PM

    I've found it's a lot harder to find friends like this than we think. I've reconnected with some of my oldest friends, and they really do all these things for me!!

  14. Heather Lawrence

    March 23, 2016 at 8:57 PM

    I have friends like these but I have found that the older I get I don't make as many "new friends" like I did when I was younger.
    Some of my friendships are over 25 years and the distance doesn't effect anything.

  15. A Day in Candiland

    March 23, 2016 at 10:18 PM

    My best friend moved away and it is so hard to make friends like that again. I can still call her, but the time in between gets longer and longer.

  16. Kid Minds

    March 23, 2016 at 11:12 PM

    I have moved so many times and lived in so many countries… but I am still in touch with some friends I made along the way. I think maybe friendship is feeling so close to someone you can not imagine them not being in your life even if they live in another country and you can't get together for coffee.

  17. jillconyers

    March 24, 2016 at 8:03 AM

    It's a very special gift to find a friend like this. My husband is my true best friend.

  18. CourtneyLynne

    March 24, 2016 at 11:51 PM

    I have a few friends that I swear it doesn't matter if we don't talk for a year, the next time we chill it's the same as its always been! Great to have low maintenance friends lol

  19. Amy Valle

    March 25, 2016 at 2:48 AM

    yep, i've got 3 great friends like this and would do just about anything for them 🙂 close, deep friendships are the most important thing to me.

  20. Karissa Ancell

    March 30, 2016 at 1:12 AM

    I wish I had a friend like that. I have friends and lots of close family but not a real best friend type of relationship.

Leave a Reply