Mar 222016

Time has a funny way of showing you who and what really matters in your life. And for that, I’m very thankful. 

When I met the godmother of our two boys, I never imagined she’d be in our lives this long.

It was the summer before high school and we were both assigned to a pre-algebra course. We worked hard that summer, and really got to know each other.

It was great. 

And after years of friendship, I never once questioned whether or not I made the right choice in making her the godmother of our boys.

If you ever find someone who can really understand you at your worst, and cheer you on at your best, then you have a true friend. 

I’ve never considered her a best friend because she’s family. She knows all the drama in my family and I know hers — well, the ones she’s okay with sharing. But even that is okay with us. 

We understand that everyone needs their own privacy, and if need be, we’ll discuss it.

Find Yourself A Meli
No one likes to be compared to others, but honestly, I hope you find yourself a Meli.
The thing about the godmother of my boys is that she’s always been a true friend.

For me, a true friend is someone who:

– doesn’t judge you because you’ve “messed up”.
– accepts you for who you are and the things you love.
– knows there’s more to the story when you’re being brief, yet doesn’t beat it out of you.
– tells you the truth even when you don’t want to hear it.
– makes you see all sides to every story.
– doesn’t care if you haven’t called in a while.
– will put someone in their place for you if they talk bad about you.
– won’t entertain drama if it’s unnecessary.
– will tell you to decide what’s right for you instead of everyone else.

And most importantly, they’re the same wonderful person with everyone else.

That’s what friends are for — at least in my eyes.
How do you define true friendship?

Fatima Torres

What's life like with three kids and two pups? It's entertaining, that's for sure! MTME breaks down family fun ideas and shares personal insights from a former B2B editor and digital marketer turned mom running a business and a household -- all under one roof. With her husband as her #1 fan, there isn't anything she can't accomplish. Read on to learn how she breathes in fire and exhales success.

Reader Comments

  1. I completely agree, The friends I have kept in touch with the most are the ones who live their lives and let me live mine and then when we meet up it's like nothings changed. I know they are there for me no matter what and I hope they know I am there for them.

  2. I LOVE that list at the end. True friends seem like they are harder and harder to come by these days (what's up with that?!), so I especially love that your friend has been in your life so long.

  3. Having a friend who is willing to tell you to straighten up as well as tell somebody to back off you is priceless. The person who listens for hours to the same thing and still acts like it's new news. I love friends like that and I love being one in return.

  4. I've found it's a lot harder to find friends like this than we think. I've reconnected with some of my oldest friends, and they really do all these things for me!!

  5. I have friends like these but I have found that the older I get I don't make as many "new friends" like I did when I was younger.
    Some of my friendships are over 25 years and the distance doesn't effect anything.

  6. I have moved so many times and lived in so many countries… but I am still in touch with some friends I made along the way. I think maybe friendship is feeling so close to someone you can not imagine them not being in your life even if they live in another country and you can't get together for coffee.

  7. I have a few friends that I swear it doesn't matter if we don't talk for a year, the next time we chill it's the same as its always been! Great to have low maintenance friends lol

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