The Pain Of Not Knowing

Deciding your own future is one thing, and helping your children decide their own is another. 
Making the right choices starts when they’re small. And it begins with you — the parent. 
Now that Sebastian is turning three in July, I have so many questions about where I’d like to place him for his elementary school years. 
Before moving to South Florida, I knew my heart was set on Catholic school. My brothers and I attended Catholic school for 12 years and it was the best decision my parents made for us. 
But will it be the same for my boys? It might sound silly, but I don’t know what to do. Having Sebastian in preschool has been a challenge for us, both financially and mentally exhausting for me. Driving across town just to get him on time only to be back two hours later for pickup. I’m spending 80 minutes a day driving to and from his school, back to our home. 
As we slowly begin to narrow down the towns we’d like to search for homes, there’s still a lot of researching that needs to take places. 
I think I’ve researched every public school available, and honestly, none really stands out. 
There’s a really good Catholic school by our home, and it was my second choice for the boys. The first choice is in the town we hope to live in one day, but that won’t be for another year or so. 
I’m stuck wondering whether or not I’d be making the right choice in having him attend the school close to home or taking the drive to the other town every day for whatever time it takes to figure out things. 
I wish I had the right answers, or at least a preview to what each option may lead to. That would definitely make things easier. 
What would you do? 


  1. Karen Morse

    Great things to consider. Definitely research a lot and figure out what makes each place stand out. What might be a great fit for your son and what might be too challenging.
    Karen |

    1. Fatima Lora

      Thank you, Karen. I don't want to over-think things, but I know how important it is to make the right education investment.

  2. Brie Beeks

    That's so hard! I definitely wouldn't like driving across town every single day for an entire year. I know mommas have to do what mommas have to do but it still seems rough! I would just pray about it and ask that one of the doors will be closed completely so that the choice is for God's bigger plan that you can't see!

  3. Terri Steffes

    Picking a school is important work! Think of this: when your child gets involved in activities, will you want to make those drives? How about playmates? When your child gets invited to play with other kids, will you want to make that drive to their house? Will they want to come to YOUR house??? Good luck with your decision, I know it will be the right one for your family!

  4. Roxanne Ferber

    Such a hard choice. I know for me I drove my kids 30 minutes one way to a school I loved. But it was stressful BC we had to get up earlier and it made them such a cranky mess. We picked another only 5 min from our home and mornings are much easier. Good luck! I know the struggle!

  5. alexandria waning

    My daughter is in private school and will be continuing that until high school. Her school next year is a lot, like a lot… but we are going to do it anyways. Education should be first, in my opinion. We thought we were going to have to relocate for a while due to the military, and our top school was 45 minutes away, but I was going to do it!

  6. Carolyn @ Fennell Seeds

    I would say if it is going to be just a year of commuting then go ahead and make the drive to keep him in the same school that you want for next year but if it is longer then do the school closest to where you are now. Then make the switch when you move closer to the other school. Making a switch to a different school in K, 1st or 2nd grade wouldn't have been a problem for my kids.

  7. tiarastantrums

    We had our kids in a christian school as well. In the beginning, I don't know if it really makes a difference – like for preschool or Kindergarten. But, I would say for sure as the kids are older, the private schools are better, at least in my area and for my family.

  8. Dollhouse Goddesses

    Sound like a tricky situation as well. I'm sure you will decide what is best for you and your family.

  9. Joyce Chen

    That's hard! My husband went to Catholic school for quite a while before switching to a nearer school for convenience. Good luck with the decision!

  10. Erin Shebish

    Choosing a school for your children is no easy feat for sure. And pressure is put on parents every day to make the right choice. I ended up putting my children in public school but have considering taking one son out and placing him elsewhere as the curriculum is great but not conducive to his learning style.

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