The Pain Of Not Knowing

Deciding your own future is one thing, and helping your children decide their own is another. 
Making the right choices starts when they’re small. And it begins with you — the parent. 
Now that Sebastian is turning three in July, I have so many questions about where I’d like to place him for his elementary school years. 
Before moving to South Florida, I knew my heart was set on Catholic school. My brothers and I attended Catholic school for 12 years and it was the best decision my parents made for us. 
But will it be the same for my boys? It might sound silly, but I don’t know what to do. Having Sebastian in preschool has been a challenge for us, both financially and mentally exhausting for me. Driving across town just to get him on time only to be back two hours later for pickup. I’m spending 80 minutes a day driving to and from his school, back to our home. 
As we slowly begin to narrow down the towns we’d like to search for homes, there’s still a lot of researching that needs to take places. 
I think I’ve researched every public school available, and honestly, none really stands out. 
There’s a really good Catholic school by our home, and it was my second choice for the boys. The first choice is in the town we hope to live in one day, but that won’t be for another year or so. 
I’m stuck wondering whether or not I’d be making the right choice in having him attend the school close to home or taking the drive to the other town every day for whatever time it takes to figure out things. 
I wish I had the right answers, or at least a preview to what each option may lead to. That would definitely make things easier. 
What would you do? 


  1. Amie

    That is definitely such a hard yet crucial decision all of us parents have to make eventually. Thankfully you still have a little bit of time, but that is so wise that you are already thinking about it. And reflecting on what choices your parents made that effected you. Now it's got me thinking about what my parents did to help improve my childhood. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Housewife Eclectic

    It can be so hard! I had the same problem with schools with my daughter. I went with the one close to home and it worked well for us!

  3. Amanda Love

    That is truly a difficult choice and one only you can decide. My daughter starts kindergarten next year and while I still have a decision to make on her elementary education, I do have an idea on what it will be. I took her out of pre-school this year so I can spend some one on one time with her. BTW have you thought of homeschooling?

  4. Bernadette Callahan

    Im over in St Pete and I have gone through the stress and struggle of trying to find a good school….honestly it is a mess! I have spent hours upon hours online looking for schools here and when we lived in Tampa. Sadly there are not many. My kids were able to get into a fairly good elementary school with some great teachers but for middle school there were no real good options. I ended up homeschooling them so thats where they are now. The oldest is in public school but only because we were able to get him into a good high school and the others will all be grandfathered in so I dont have to stress the applications and waiting too much.
    Take your time, don't put them somewhere you really don't like because you are essentially committed to the school for x amount of years.

  5. CourtneyLynne

    This really is a hard choice!!! I question all
    The time if I'm sending my daughter to the right school or not. Things seem to be going well for her so far so fingers crossed things stay this way

  6. Michelle

    School is an important part of your child's life but so much of how your child turns out has more to do with their family. I say this as a teacher, mom of 4, and and a person who has wrestled with the same choices you are right now. A school can be "the best" and your child wind up with a mediocre teacher. A school can be thought of as "not good" and have a fabulous teacher that will exceed your expectations and help your child THRIVE. Do your research, make a decision, and then trust that your son will be okay because you are there to support him and guide him through these years.

  7. Rachel Gault

    Picking a school seems to be so tough these days! I'd look into the school and the teachers and see if it would work out to try the one closer to home. If it ends up being not what you hoped, you can always switch back!

  8. Kelly

    The school system is so different here in Peru. The public schools are terrible, we had to put our boys in a private school. The oldest one is out of school now, but I'm homeschooling the younger until we get to the US and he can do his senior year there.

  9. Stacey D

    As a teacher and a mom, let me just say that parent involvement is the most important aspect of your child's education. I have taught in a private school setting and a public school setting. Great kids and families at both schools.

  10. Heather

    I would say if you haven't found something that you absolutely love, wait. Of course this is coming from a homeschooling mama here 🙂 I think that you need to find a place where you are comfortable, but when they are so young, the main thing they need is play, time outdoors, and not as much structure – this is my own opinion of course! You could try pre-school at home, read lots of great quality books, play games, sing songs. Do what works for you mama!

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