Parenting can be stressful, overwhelming and rewarding — all at once. We often hear that a messy home just means a happy one, but it’s not always the case. But what a messy home says about you might have a lot to do with a cry for help.
I’ve always said that when my house is a mess, I’m a mess. I clean up as often as possible, but when the kids or my husband get sick, it’s almost impossible to keep up with everything.
Because when the unexpected happens, things get out of control.
Reason #1: The Flu Took Over
As exciting as it might be to take time off from everyday tasks, those tasks can easily pile up.
So yes, the laundry gets out of hand. The dishes in the sink will start to pile up.
Solution: In this case, a messy home means something came up and you haven’t had a chance to tackle the house chores. It’s no big deal. You’ll get to things when you can.
Family and friends who complain should shut their mouth pick a task to help you with instead of complaining.
Reason #2: You’ve Been Very Busy
Crazy schedules can be a huge factor as to why your home is a mess, and that’s okay. From afterschool activities to demands from work, it’s a bit nutty to think you’ll be able to manage it all without a little mess here and there. Afterall, what a messy home says about you, in this case, is just how exhausted you are from everything.
Solution: Set up a cleaning schedule that meets your everyday needs. It’d be a great time to get everyone on board as well. You can make house chores fun by including the children.
Reason #3: No Cleaning Schedule In Place
Cleaning whenever you feel like it or whenever you think you have time isn’t always the best idea.
I laughed when a family member said they couldn’t do something because that was their time to mop. As hilarious as it might’ve sounded, it’s worth giving yourself a daily cleaning schedule.
Solution: Make a cleaning schedule that you can stick to. Don’t try and clean your home when it’s bedtime. Be realistic with the time you have. You also want to make sure you get enough rest and relaxation throughout the day. Self-care is essential for busy mamas.
Reason #4: You Don’t Have Room For Your Things
It’s okay to admit that you’ve been hoarding things over the years. However, it’s important to understand that everything needs to have a place.
Solution: Over-piling items on top of each other isn’t having a place for these items. If you find that you don’t have a place for items — and you really don’t have use for it either — it’s best to donate or sell it instead.
Reason #5: You Don’t Put Things Away
One of the easiest ways to make a tidy home appear as an unkept one is by not placing things back. It’s easy to reach for the milk in the fridge, but if you leave it out, it’ll spoil.
Solution: Think of your items as having a spoil limit. Just like milk belongs in the fridge, so do your items have a place. Besides, if you’ve already finished using something, it’s better to put it away. This way, you’ll know where to find it the next time you need it.
Reason #6: You Don’t Have The Best Habits
This ties into putting things where they belong and having a cleaning schedule in place. If you don’t create good habits for yourself, how will your family learn from you?
I’ll let you in on a secret. For years, my husband would forget to take the trash out. Oftentimes the garbage would pile up for weeks until he finally remembered to take it out.
It was easy for others to make comments, and for some to say I should take on the task. It’s amazing to hear what a messy home says about you to others.
Honestly, I really didn’t like the last one. What mom wants more on their plate?
Yet, I did it. I took it on. Taking out the trash every week, but guess who brings in the trash cans every week? That’s right, hubby does it!
Solution: Make it a team effort with your family. Get everyone involved and remind them of the rules. You can even make them up as you go, but do your best to stick to them. These rules will slowly become habits your family will create on their own.