Mar 032020

Parenting can be stressful, overwhelming and rewarding — all at once. We often hear that a messy home just means a happy one, but it’s not always the case. But what a messy home says about you might have a lot to do with a cry for help.

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I’ve always said that when my house is a mess, I’m a mess. I clean up as often as possible, but when the kids or my husband get sick, it’s almost impossible to keep up with everything.


Because when the unexpected happens, things get out of control.

Reason #1: The Flu Took Over

As exciting as it might be to take time off from everyday tasks, those tasks can easily pile up.

So yes, the laundry gets out of hand. The dishes in the sink will start to pile up.

Solution: In this case, a messy home means something came up and you haven’t had a chance to tackle the house chores. It’s no big deal. You’ll get to things when you can.


Family and friends who complain should shut their mouth pick a task to help you with instead of complaining.

Reason #2: You’ve Been Very Busy

Crazy schedules can be a huge factor as to why your home is a mess, and that’s okay. From afterschool activities to demands from work, it’s a bit nutty to think you’ll be able to manage it all without a little mess here and there. Afterall, what a messy home says about you, in this case, is just how exhausted you are from everything.

Solution: Set up a cleaning schedule that meets your everyday needs. It’d be a great time to get everyone on board as well. You can make house chores fun by including the children.

Reason #3: No Cleaning Schedule In Place

Cleaning whenever you feel like it or whenever you think you have time isn’t always the best idea.

I laughed when a family member said they couldn’t do something because that was their time to mop. As hilarious as it might’ve sounded, it’s worth giving yourself a daily cleaning schedule.

Solution: Make a cleaning schedule that you can stick to. Don’t try and clean your home when it’s bedtime. Be realistic with the time you have. You also want to make sure you get enough rest and relaxation throughout the day. Self-care is essential for busy mamas.

Reason #4: You Don’t Have Room For Your Things

It’s okay to admit that you’ve been hoarding things over the years. However, it’s important to understand that everything needs to have a place.

Solution: Over-piling items on top of each other isn’t having a place for these items. If you find that you don’t have a place for items — and you really don’t have use for it either — it’s best to donate or sell it instead.

Reason #5: You Don’t Put Things Away

One of the easiest ways to make a tidy home appear as an unkept one is by not placing things back. It’s easy to reach for the milk in the fridge, but if you leave it out, it’ll spoil.

Solution: Think of your items as having a spoil limit. Just like milk belongs in the fridge, so do your items have a place. Besides, if you’ve already finished using something, it’s better to put it away. This way, you’ll know where to find it the next time you need it.

Reason #6: You Don’t Have The Best Habits

This ties into putting things where they belong and having a cleaning schedule in place. If you don’t create good habits for yourself, how will your family learn from you?

I’ll let you in on a secret. For years, my husband would forget to take the trash out. Oftentimes the garbage would pile up for weeks until he finally remembered to take it out.

It was easy for others to make comments, and for some to say I should take on the task. It’s amazing to hear what a messy home says about you to others.

Honestly, I really didn’t like the last one. What mom wants more on their plate?

Yet, I did it. I took it on. Taking out the trash every week, but guess who brings in the trash cans every week? That’s right, hubby does it!

Solution: Make it a team effort with your family. Get everyone involved and remind them of the rules. You can even make them up as you go, but do your best to stick to them. These rules will slowly become habits your family will create on their own.

Can you think of other things on what a messy home says about you? Feel free to share solutions you’ve tried with your family!

What a messy home says about you? It's not that simple. Actually, there are a number of reasons why your home isn't as clean as you'd like it to be. In this post, we explore those reasons and share solutions on how to combat these issues.

Fatima Torres

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Reader Comments

  1. I try to make sure my home is clean. But organized? That is for the birds! I have way too much stuff!!

  2. I honestly can’t stand a messy house or room. I know I have some areas that I need to get cleaned up too. It drives me insane too. I know this spring I’ll be doing some major cleaning.

  3. Yep, most of this describes me. When I’m organized and have a schedule in place, my home is a lot cleaner and tidier. I’m also trying to make my kids more responsible about cleaning up after themselves. That’s a big step.

  4. We’re dealing with #4 in a big way right now and I’m about to lose my mind. We moved from 3800 square feet into 1100 square feet and while we got rid of a ton, we didn’t get rid of enough. And the storage situation is totally different. I am really working hard on getting rid of more stuff so it’s easier to keep everything clean and tidy.

  5. I just moved into my forever home and I have things scattered in areas where things have not found a home yet. I want to make sure if it does not get a home it gets sold or given to someone else that needs it. Having lived the cluttered lifestyle with my ex-husband I can no longer do it! I like things orderly as it helps my anxiety.

  6. I think I have all of these reasons combined! I am not kidding but it at least explains why I get overwhelmed.

  7. These are all so true! Sometimes life gets a little too busy that we do not have time to fix or clean the house. Thank you for listing all these and the solutions.

  8. I am a very neat person (the only my husband and I ever had disagreements is in my inability to understand how come he could try to avoid scheduled dusting etc) but when something ruins my schedule (someone got sick, work took up too much time etc) it becomes a horror show to me. my key is keeping thing minimal, schedule and cleaning everyday but for 15-20 minutes

  9. A messy home for me means I’m simply too busy with work and taking care of my kids. Nothing wrong with having a messy home because we don’t have to be perfect all the time.

  10. All of these reasons are very true. It’s difficult if you’re single because everything is your responsibility.

  11. There’s lots of reasons for a messy home. Sometimes you just get so busy that cleaning up takes a backseat. It’s so satisfying when you have a tidy home though.

  12. Over the years I have perfected keeping my house clean, even when things go awry. Of course I don’t have kids, so that is what makes a huge difference!

  13. A messy home in my opinion is a guarantee of a messy life. I do believe that if we cannot organize our surroundings like yo say it is difficult to organize our challenging life. Mess around also transits a negative energy.

  14. I can’t stand mess and do have a cleaning schedule in place – I can relate with your family member’s mop time! I was recently watching Marie Kondo’s show about reducing stuff and it made me realize that even though I try and practice minimalism, there’s still a long way to go! I’m now trying to organize things and already have a large pile of clothes to donate.

  15. We are a busy family always on the go. I used to stress over a little mess. Now I’m like time is moving fast and I need to enjoy my kids. So no it’s not filthy like hoarders but some things are out of place and laundry on the den chair but I’m fine with that.

  16. Messy homes say a lot about a person but so do clean ones. Usually a messy house means the person needs help like you say.

  17. #2 for me. Some weeks my schedule are insane. Good thing that I am not the only one who understands this.

  18. Great post, I agree there are different things that make for a messy house. We generally keep our house pretty picked up but when it does get a little messy it is because we are busy, a little mess isn’t going to hurt us so I have no problem putting off cleaning a bit to instead enjoy time with my family and kids.

  19. ahhaha so interesting, one time I had a question on the interview: how often do you clean your home? I was really confused with that question..

  20. Yes, it says you can’t afford a cleaning service. Occasionally I throw my hands up in the air and just hire someone to come clean for an hour or two. Just did this last week and although my house again almost looks like a tornado hit it, I like that it took this off of my hands and also took away the battle with my teens.

  21. You’ve got some great points here. Honestly, our home is usually quiet tidy, so you can easily tell when I hit a busy season at work! All of a sudden things look completely ‘off’ from how they are usually kept… The good part of that, I suppose, is that a busy season at work is always a short lived period that has an ending point, where I can then turn around get my life back in order lol

  22. Hey as much as we all want to be clean freaks, life happens. Dont be so hard on yourself but it does help to have consistent cleaner habits.

  23. For me, a messy home just means life happened. I could never have an immaculate home. They freak me out. I worry the people can’t have fun because they’re so worried about mess, ha.

  24. We have been messy..until we reach a threshold where we can’t take it anymore and then we clean like crazy!

  25. With Spring coming and the nice weather, we have busy schedules ahead. I try to clean as much as I can during the week but leave a lot for the weekends. That schedule might have to be changed because our weekends are full in the up coming months. I am definitely the type of person that everything has its place, but with two boys and a hubby things don’t always get back to it’s place.

  26. I love a spotless house. But I am currently a single mom with 4 boys at home. I am way over my head. So we do what we can.

  27. I always try to keep my home clean. I find that the cleaner it stays, the easier it is to stay motivated and actually get stuff done.

  28. A messy house causes me MAJOR stress. We just did a major closet overhaul and are working on putting everything back in its place and I can’t wait for things to be back to normal.

  29. I’m a bit of a neat freak. Always have been. I’ve nearly fainted trying to clean while sick. Messes make me anxious. But hey sometimes things are out of our control. I like your handy solutions.

  30. I really enjoy having a clean house, especially after people come over. It makes me feel so accomplished.

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